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I am suffering from something which is not appropriate I don't want to live but also don't have guts to die I want someone to understane and emotions my feelings why I get attached to people after that they leave me and whole day went only in crying or sleeping I don't want to do nothing I am just feed up of all these things
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Hi,
I'm really sorry you're feeling this way. Please reach out to a mental health professional or someone you trustâthey can offer support and help you through this difficult time. You're not alone, and help is available.
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I’m really sorry that you’re feeling this overwhelmed right now. It sounds like you’re going through a lot of emotional pain—feeling attached to people and then getting hurt when they leave can be extremely difficult.
At the same time, I want to acknowledge something important—you said you don’t want to live, but also don’t have the courage to die. This often means a part of you still wants things to get better, and that part deserves support and care
What you’re experiencing—getting deeply attached and feeling empty when people leave—can be connected to emotional needs, past experiences, or fear of abandonment. But this is something we can work on together step by step. You are not “too much” or “wrong” for feeling this way.
For now, I would suggest:
• Try not to stay alone with these thoughts—talk to someone you trust (friend, family, teacher)
• Keep your routine small and simple (sleep, eat, basic self-care)
• When thoughts get intense, gently distract yourself (music, journaling, short walk)
Also, since you’re feeling this low, it’s really important to reach out for professional help. If possible, consider talking to a counselor. You can also contact a mental health helpline in India—they are there to listen without judgment.
You don’t have to go through this alone. I’m here to listen—would you like to share what usually triggers these feelings for you?
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Hi, to address your concern we need to know about your childhood, relationship with parents and other parts of your life.
It's important to understand our self first. So, I would suggest you to take therapy if it is possible for you, because you are 17 and therapy costs well in India.
There are Government mental health helpline in India, where you can call and talk to a professional.
Consider both the options and take help.
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Consultation with me is suggested
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You need counseling sessions to correct your emotional intelligence and the way to respond.
You need an expert counseling psychologist asap
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I have been working as a Homeopathic Psychiatrist and Counseling psychologist for the last 17 years of experience.
You can contact me through an online appointment for further assistance.
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Hi, Consult a psychologist for professional help
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Mr. Sandeep Kumar
Psychologist
15 yrs exp
Chandigarh
Dear concerned, It sounds like you are carrying an immense amount of pain right now, but please reach out to a professional or a trusted adult immediately, as your life is valuable and there is support available to help you navigate these feelings
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Ms. Azeeza Syed
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3 yrs exp
Hyderabad
What you wrote took courage, and I read it carefully.
Not wanting to live, but also not wanting to die — that’s your mind telling you it’s this pain you want to end, not your life. That part of you deserves real support.
What you’re feeling — the deep attachment, the emptiness when people leave — makes sense. And it can change.
I work with young people going through exactly this. I’d love to be that person who actually understands you. You can find me here on Practo.
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Ms. Mausam Shah
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4 yrs exp
Mumbai
Hey, I’m really sorry you’re feeling this way. It sounds like you’re carrying a lot inside, and it must be exhausting to feel stuck between not wanting to live but also not wanting to die. That confusion and pain is real, and it matters.
The way you get attached to people and feel deeply when they leave… that just shows how much you care and how capable you are of love. There’s nothing “wrong” with you for feeling this way. But yes, it can hurt a lot when that care isn’t returned or when people go away.
Right now, it also sounds like you’re feeling very low on energy—crying, sleeping a lot, not wanting to do anything. Sometimes our mind and body shut down like this when things feel too overwhelming.
You don’t have to go through this alone. Is there someone you trust—a friend, sibling, parent, or teacher—you can talk to, even a little? If that feels hard, even reaching out to a counselor or helpline could really help. You deserve someone who listens and understands you.
For now, try to take things one small step at a time. Even something simple like getting out of bed, having a meal, or stepping outside for a few minutes is enough for today. You don’t have to fix everything at once.
And please remember this—just because things feel unbearable right now doesn’t mean they will always feel this way. Feelings can change, even when it doesn’t seem like it.
I’m here to listen too. If you want, you can share more about what’s been hurting you.
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Ms. Pooja Bhargava
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10 yrs exp
Delhi
It sounds like you’re feeling very overwhelmed, alone and hurt by these patterns of attachment and loss. Please consider reaching out to a mental health professional so you don’t have to carry this by yourself
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Ms. Nikita Khan
Mental Health Counselor
3 yrs exp
Guwahati
Hey i hope you are doing well..
i know it seems difficult rn, but let me tell you - you have already taken the first step which is writing it down and expressing yourself here.
You are not alone let me tell you.
I am understanding that :
1) you have dependency issue, its not easy for you to open up.
2) i guess you are having relationship issues.
3) you need to get back stronger and build your confidence.
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What you can do :
1) talk to your close ones as much as you can.
2) try going out.
3) try to socialise around your surroundings
4) connect to a counsellor as they are not biased, they are empathetic and won’t judge you. ( stranger to you)
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