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I have destroyed myself
Im obese i had reduced my wieght to 115 kg but now i have gained again when i stoped dieting because of my mental health i was just ordering mcd 3 or 4 times a week and have again reached to 122 kgs i feel bad i feel like hitting myself and now i have interview in next week and i am at my mental low and i have not prepared there is unrest in our offuce and i am not able to fit in my fromals
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I hear you. This sounds really tough, and I just want you to know that it’s okay to feel overwhelmed right now. Weight fluctuations and emotional eating happen to so many of us, especially when life feels chaotic. But please don’t beat yourself up for it, being kind to yourself matters, especially when you’re struggling.
Here’s a few things you can:
1. Break it into Small Wins: You don’t need to fix everything at once. Focus on what you can control right now, like prepping one healthy meal or practicing a few interview questions daily. Tiny steps add up.
2. Clothes Hack: Don’t stress about fitting into old formals. Wear something comfortable and neat, even business casuals can work if you wear them with confidence. You’ll shine through your skills, not the outfit.
3. Feel-Good Activities: Add small things to lift your mood, play a favorite playlist, take a 10-minute walk, or talk to someone who makes you feel good. These moments recharge your mental energy.
4. Limit the Negative Self-Talk: You’re not a failure, you’re a human going through a hard time. Try to replace harsh thoughts with compassion: “I’m doing the best I can right now.”
5. Prepare Smartly for the Interview: Even 30 minutes a day can make a big difference. Review key points, practice answers in front of a mirror, and remind yourself that it’s okay not to have everything perfect, just show up as you.
I’m here for you if you need to talk more or just need someone to listen. You’re going through a tough patch, but you can make it through this, one moment at a time.
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Be kind to yourself—you deserve it.
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It seems to be obesity induced psychological changes and vice versa.
It needs to be treated asap otherwise it may get complicated.
It should be treated in a holistic approach for complete recovery.
It can be treated well with counseling sessions and homeopathic medicine effectively.
Homeopathic medicine does not have any side effects or addiction.
You need an expert psychologist who is a good homeopathic physician.
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I have been working as a Homeopathic Psychiatrist and Counseling Psychologist for the last 17 years. You can contact me through an online appointment for further assistance.
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Tolerate the distressing thoughts and feelings with mindfulness practice
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mindfulness exercise, guided scripts
take decisions as per current situation
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grounding for present awareness: touch various objects around you
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Hi,
I understand you feel overwhelmed right now, especially with the added pressure of an upcoming interview and the challenges with your mental health.
Setbacks are part of the journey don’t be hard on yourself, practice self-compassion and acknowledge that you’re taking steps towards improvement.
Focus on making small, manageable changes to your eating habits, rather than drastic dieting.
For your interview, try to set aside time to prepare, which can help build your confidence. If your formal clothes feel uncomfortable, consider wearing something that fits better or makes you feel more confident.
Practice deep-breathing techniques to manage anxiety before an interview.
No matter what the outcome is take it as an opportunity for growth.
Consult a Psychologist to help you manage , by helping you identify the underlying reasons and give you the skills to manage in a positive effective manner.
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Practice Deep Breathing .
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Hi, Consult a psychologist for professional help
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Taking stress can also be the reason to trigger obesity. Kindly take dietary food but nourish your body with enough food.do not starve yourself.exercise daily for at least 30 min.
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Hello dear, don't be hard on yourself. Both your mental health and weight can be managed with expert guided strategies and proper mindset. First of all for your upcoming interview focus on your priorities and skills, as your weight will not be a deciding factor for your job rather your skills and knowledge will be judged. Meanwhile try consulting holistic check up with a physician to check for any physiological issue and also to a psychologist to be at your mental peace.
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Consult physician and psychologist for holistic treatment.
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Thank you for sharing your struggles with me. I understand that weight gain and mental health can be deeply interconnected.
Firstly, please be kind to yourself. Acknowledge that you've faced challenges, but don't self-blame or criticize. Your worth extends beyond your weight.
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book a session with me to identify your concerns.
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Hi,
Itâs understandable to feel overwhelmed given your current situation, but it's important to be kind to yourself during this challenging time. Weight fluctuations can happen to anyone, especially when dealing with mental health issues and stress, such as what you are experiencing at work. It's crucial to remember that your worth is not defined by your weight or how well you fit into your clothes. Instead of focusing on what you perceive as setbacks, try to view this moment as a starting point for positive change. Prioritize your mental health and consider gradual steps for both your physical and emotional well-being. As you prepare for your interview, try to focus on your skills and strengths rather than your insecurities. Remember, everyone has struggles, and itâs okay to seek help or talk to someone about how youâre feeling. Take a deep breath, and approach this interview as an opportunity to showcase what you can bring to the table rather than letting your worries hold you back.
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consult
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seek help
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Thanks for reaching out. You are having body image issues and it is something that can be changed. Avoid being hard on yourself and appreciate yourself for who you are. You have an interview next week and being obese should not affect your self esteem. Ensure to prepare well for the interview and you will be fine. Being obese does not mean you are a failure and it should not stop you from doing well in your career. You don’t have to be a particulate size to enjoy life and be successful. Consult a psychologist and talk about what you are going through. A psychologist will help you with diet plan and exercise to help you lose weight.
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Consult a psychologist
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Contact me for counselling sessions. Along with counselling I can suggest natural foods to calm the mind.
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Wg is a manageable thing. You nèed to think positive. All that you need to do is focus on your interview. Get few new pairs of cloths and restart on wg reduction. Take therapy. NLP and Hypnotherapy is v helpful.
Search my profile on Google and consult for session
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Live in moment and start therapy
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Goal setting and therapy
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For now
Be in the present moment
Focus on interview
It’s more about your happy personality and skill
You can lose weight again
Consult with me let’s talk about it
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Ms. Neha Sachdev
Psychologist
11 yrs exp
Delhi
Hi, Mira. Could you identify the reason for your low mental health? Eating a lot is your way of coping with stress. It is also called stress eating. Please identify why you are feeling low about yourself!! You are in a vicious circle: You get a stressful stimulus, and instead of dealing with it, you stress over it and eat again. eating would not help you to erase the stress giving situation, person, or a thing.
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believe in yourself mira. you are much better than you think about yourself
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try talking to a counsellor for you stress related issues.
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Mr. Sandeep Kumar
Psychologist
15 yrs exp
Chandigarh
Focus on self-compassion and take small steps towards healthier habits. Start by incorporating balanced meals and light exercise daily. Prepare for the interview by practicing common questions and visualization techniques.
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Reach out to supportive friends or a counselor to discuss your feelings and regain confidence for your interview. Take a session for resolving the root cause of your problem , also learning emotional management skills and resources skills to deal with the situation.
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Dr. Gargi Bansal (PhD)
Counselling Psychologist
19 yrs exp
Noida
I can understand that weight issues can be of lot of concern for an individual..so try to indulge in healthy homemade food rather than doing emotional eating..whenever you have low self esteem regarding your weight don’t get pushed to eat more just try to go for a walk outside ..try not to overthink but be confident that if your knowledge is good your physical appearance takes a back seat..so prepare well for the interview and appear confidently in it..dress well in formals that suits your body type
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Avoid negative self talk and divide ur weight goals in to small achievable goals
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Eat mindfully and practice self affirmation
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Ms. Geeta Bidhuri
Psychologist
3 yrs exp
New Delhi
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Firstly, I would like to appreciate you for your willingness to seek Guidance.
After reading your concerns , I would recommend you to consult a Psychologist.
Your Problem is not only Obesity its more then that there is an inclination towards Psychological Problem . Consult a psychologist Therapy is a must.
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Consult ( Connect with me soon )
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Dr. Satnam Singh (PhD)
Psychologist
22 yrs exp
Gurgaon
I can understand your frustration and helplessness in managing your weight. The causes can be many and in your case it appears to be psychological.
Unless the underlying cause is addressed, you will continue to have weight problems.
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Contact a hypnotherapist, specialising in inner child healing , childhood abuse and virtual stomach ring procedure.
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Just remind yourself that your problem can be solved. You just need to connect with an appropriate professional.
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Ms. Vishnupriya
Psychologist
2 yrs exp
Thiruvananthapuram
Hey dear..Believing in yourself is the first step towards any change.Trust me..If you need further support please connect with me
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Ms. Mohana Priya G
Psychologist
9 yrs exp
Bangalore
What you are facing right now is the drawbacks of your milestone goal.
Once you have achieved the goal through the process , Consistency in the process is more important than the result.
The result will be wary based on the internal and external factors but the consistency in the process matters.
Ask yourself what the changes you need.
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Consultation with a dietician first.
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Dr. Kavita Bhutani (PhD)
Psychologist
20 yrs exp
Gurgaon
Hey hey hey first of all mostly people who think they are obese are only fat at the looks of it
And body image is just part of you not the complete you
It’s not some thing that defines you
You are giving those thoughts power and those people who comment on you the power to ruin you
Do not
Diet
Exercise and unresolved traumas
We can treat them and see what’s your stress trigger
Take sunshine
Vitamin d
Sleep routine
Smile smile smile
Love yourself and do some mirror work
You are wonderful
You breathe and you contribute to the beauty of this world
Love and light
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Ms. Parul Pushkarna
Psychologist
3 yrs exp
Navi Mumbai
Hey, I completely understand how overwhelming this situation must feel right now. Itâs tough when everything seems to pile on at onceâwork stress, personal challenges, and mental health all colliding.
First, be kind to yourself. Weight fluctuations happen, especially when weâre dealing with emotional stressors for so long. Beating yourself up wonât help; instead, try to focus on small, positive steps you can take moving forward.
For now, letâs shift the focus to what you can control. Preparing for your interview, even if you start small, can help you feel a bit more in control and reduce some of the pressure. Break it down into manageable tasks and focus on one thing at a time.
As for your weight and clothes, maybe consider a temporary adjustment for the interviewâsomething you feel comfortable in thatâs professional. You deserve to feel confident, and it's okay if youâre not exactly where you want to be right now.
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Take Small Steps for Physical Health: Instead of restrictive diets, think about small changesâlike reducing the frequency of fast food, planning meals, or adding more movement into your day. Even short walks or stretching can help lift your mood. Mental Health Support: If you feel mentally overwhelmed, it might be helpful to talk to someoneâa counselor or therapistâwho can support you through this period. Managing your mental health is essential, especially in stressful situations.
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Take a deep breath. Youâve got this, and thereâs still time to prepare and take care of yourselfâboth mentally and physically. The important thing is not to be too hard on yourself and remember that progress isn't linear.
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Ms. Rizwana Parvin T M
Counselling Psychologist
7 yrs exp
Coimbatore
Don't think you have destroyed yourself, it may just be a phase you are in. Every problem has a logical and simple solution. You have not come across it yet. For now accept the way you are and gradually overcome your weight reduction challenges. For now groom yourself just the way you are. Put some make up and buy plus size work wear which is easily available online. Hope it helps. I can help you further too.
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Consult a counselling psychologist
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Small lifestyle habits can help
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Ms. Sheetal Kusumbe
Counselling Psychologist
21 yrs exp
Thane
Hello,
You are overwhelmed and it is quite understandable.
There is more weight on your mind firstly, that needs to be resolved.
The situation may seem out of control but there is always a way out.
Begin with being kind to yourself.Shed your inhibitions. Eat healthy, being active shall help your feel energetic too.
Focus on preparing well for your interview, carry your attitude of winning with you.
Shift your focus on the solution rather than the problem.
Counseling sessions can be beneficial for better navigation skills.
All the best for your interview! You can certainly do better, believe in your abilities.
There is always something to learn in all situations.
You can consult for further professional guidance.
Happy Healthy Living!
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Mr. Prem Kumar
Psychologist
7 yrs exp
Hyderabad
You need to appreciate and acknowledge that you have become successful in reducing the weight to 115 kg. You already found the practical ways to achieve the desired goal.
It is natural to feel low when you witness the failure. But this feeling also helps you to acknowdge the present situation and finding the best possible ways to achive the desired goals.
Just give yourself 100% to the present goal which is cracking the interview and postpone all the other activities.
Take care
Best wishes to you.
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Ms. Smriti
Counselling Psychologist
18 yrs exp
Bangalore
It's easy to feel angry or upset at oneself when setbacks happen, but being kind to oneself is crucial. Remind them that gaining weight or facing challenges during tough times is not a failure—it’s a natural response to stress and mental health struggles. Self-blame can make the situation worse.
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