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Unable to come out of negative thoughts
Hi Doctor i am a 40 year old woman I do have 6 year old he goes to school regularly, but hyper so I get medication from concern doctor and about my husband he doesn't works he left the job so I am taking care of family we don't get intimate as he has erection so he usse viagra once in a while we have we end up fighting when ever I try to get closer my mind and thoughts doesn't allow to get closer with him .my problem is that I am getting attracted to other men who is friendly and hes married having 2 kids I don't know how to to control my thoughts and concentrate on my kid please do help me so I don't hurt myself or go in wrong direction
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Thanks for reaching out. It sounds like you’re carrying a lot of responsibility managing the family, caring for your child, dealing with financial stress, and feeling emotionally disconnected from your husband. When emotional needs such as affection, support, validation, or companionship are not being met for a long time, it’s not uncommon to feel attracted to someone who is kind, attentive, or makes you feel valued. The attraction itself does not make you a bad person; what matters is how you respond to it.
Instead of judging yourself, try to understand what this attraction may be telling you about your unmet emotional needs. Focus on strengthening your emotional well-being, reconnecting with your values, and if possible, having honest conversations with your husband about the difficulties in your relationship. A therapist can help you process these feelings safely and prevent impulsive decisions that may later cause pain. You don’t have to handle this alone.
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Start psychotherapy and also a detail assessment for underlying issues
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"Hi there, I understand that seeking help can feel overwhelming, but you’ve already taken the first brave step. I can guide you with a clear treatment plan tailored just for you, so you can feel better and regain control over your life. You can reach me directly on WhatsApp for quick support on seven zero eight two zero two two zero six two."
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Hi, counseling can help. Consult online for treatment. Alternatively you can search google for Dr. Shailaja Bandla, Psychiatrist for contact information
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Dr. Humayun
Neuropsychiatrist
14 yrs exp
Anantnag
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You need proper assessment and management accordingly
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Dr. Bojja Sarada Sireesha
Neuropsychiatrist
8 yrs exp
Puducherry
“Hello, what you are experiencing can happen when someone is under prolonged emotional stress, loneliness, relationship conflicts and mental exhaustion. Attraction towards someone who shows care or emotional support does not automatically make you a bad person. However, it is important not to make impulsive decisions while emotionally vulnerable.
You seem to be carrying multiple burdens — family responsibilities, marital stress, reduced intimacy, parenting stress and negative thoughts. Over time this can affect mood, concentration and emotional control.
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Most importantly, since you mentioned thoughts about hurting yourself or going in the wrong direction, please consult a psychiatrist/psychologist directly for proper assessment and supportive therapy. Counselling can help you process emotions safely and improve clarity in decision making.
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Avoid isolating yourself with these thoughts
• Maintain healthy boundaries with the other person while you are emotionally confused
• Try to communicate calmly with your husband regarding emotional and physical intimacy instead of only discussing during fights
• Take time for self-care, sleep, relaxation and emotional support from trusted people
• Continue follow-up with your treating doctor, as anxiety/depression and stress can sometimes intensify repetitive thoughts and emotional dependence
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