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My parents are against the person I love and we both love each other equally..he's a good person too..but my parents aren't either ready to meet him and judge him without knowing at all that he's a bad person. I don't wanna lose him since I'm sure about our bond that he's the right guy for me..its been 2 years now. They're always filing fake case against him so that he doesn't ever try to contact me or meet me..they say that we will kill him and even you or will die still we will never let you both marry. Including his own mother is now against us because of different states nothing else. We've same caste and religion too. We are both so much tired and have been tolerating enough..that we feel half dead from within. Weve helped alot of couples to reunite but for us only no one helped us. Im tolerating the abuse they do to me physically and emotionally..But can't do anything to solve it..and they're hurting my partner too alot. We don't understand what to do. Please help us guide.
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Dear, I feel unjust for whatever you’re being through. I guess you need to take a bold step of reaching psychotherapist before any other decision. Being in young adulthood, proper guidance and help is so much essential.
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Dr. Dharmendra Solanki - (PhD) (PhD) (PhD) (PhD)
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I appreciate your patience to go thru all the turbulence. Life has chellanges and in some community love marriage is still seen with red eye. Considering details there can be 2 ways to handle
1) have pre marital counselling session for you and would be partner to identify issues. This will enable to identify core / soft issues and may be some catalysts within community be identified.
So love marriage against community wish is always a challenge of social boycott / withdrawal of finance support etc.
2) If families are against such marriage but you are meeting legal age - go ahead and tie Wed lock. Ensure your finance independency and ready to face chellanges (can be identify).
As narrated by you i am sure families may not keen for family counselling which otherwise make them aware of situation.
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Dr. Dharmendra Solanki (PhD.)
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Maintain cool and be bold to take decision (either way)
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Identify if any mediator who can clarify doubts building confidence amongst two family members. (This is very much possible)
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I recommend counselling to manage your emotions and develop coping strategies for you while you are going through this challenging time .
You can try - having a calm, mediated conversations with your parents about your relationship. This will help you to understand their concerns and improve the communication between you and your parents .
- Focus also on your educational, and career goals to gain independence and control over your decisions.
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Consult a Psychologist.
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Maintain your health - your physical and mental wellbeing through regular exercise , a balanced diet and sufficient sleep to help you manage the stress you are going through.
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Hi,
I am so sorry to hear about the difficult situation you and your partner are facing. It must be incredibly challenging to have to deal with your parents' disapproval and the obstacles they are putting in your way.
It sounds like you have already been through a lot and are feeling exhausted from dealing with the abuse and threats from your parents. It is not fair for them to treat you and your partner in such a cruel and unjust manner.
I would encourage you to seek support from other loved ones, friends, or even professional counselors who can help you navigate this difficult situation. It may also be worth considering speaking with a legal professional to understand your rights and options in this situation.
Above all, remember that your happiness and well-being are important. It is important to prioritise your own mental health and safety in this situation. Stay strong and know that there are people who care about you and want to support you through this tough time.
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Thank you for writing in. It’s never easy to be in a situation where your family ends up being in a state of conflict with the person you love. However,you could try counselling to develop better strategies to communicate to your parents about your love interest.
This time can be mentally exhausting for you hence it’s important that you look after yourself as well.
Indulge in some form of self - care everyday to ensure that this relationship is not getting the better off you.
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Book a slot with me for a counselling session.
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I m really sorry to hear that you’re going through such a difficult and distressing situation. It’s important to approach this with care, as your safety and well-being as well as your parent, are the top priority.
Try to reach out to trusted friends, relatives who might offer support and security if needed.
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Hello!
That sounds really distressing especially it going for the past many years. I can only imagine how mentally exhausting it might have been for both of you.
However, try consulting a psychologist or a couple therapist for the same, they can help you navigate through this situation.
Hope this helps! :)
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Ms. Shivangi Gupta
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Delhi
It sounds like you and your partner are facing significant challenges due to opposition from your families. It's crucial to prioritize your safety and well-being in this difficult situation. Consider seeking support from a counselor or mediator who specializes in family conflict and relationship issues. A professional can help facilitate constructive communication between you, your partner, and your families, and provide guidance on how to navigate these complex dynamics. It may also be beneficial to explore legal options to protect yourselves from any threats or harassment. Remember that your happiness and safety are paramount, and seeking professional help can provide you with clarity and support as you navigate this challenging time.
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Ms. Trishi Tangri
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Hyderabad
This seems like a very difficult situation to be in. Please seek a therapist to help you deal with this emotionally and find the necessary skills required to take a legal action if required. Abuse of any form is difficult to deal with especially when coming from your loved ones. Hope you find strength.
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