Why Do I Feel Triggered by Certain Actio

I feel like some people (strangers or family members) do certain actions intentionally because they know those actions easily trigger me, and they mentally disturb me from within. However, I don’t feel this way about my parents, because I fully trust that they wouldn’t do anything deliberately to trigger me. In my case, some common examples are: someone honking loudly while passing near me, or someone making loud noises with utensils right when I enter a room. I start thinking that as soon as I arrived, why did that person do this action? Why don’t they do it when I’m not around? Whenever someone performs such actions in front of me, I feel anxiety and a lot of anger. Then I end up doing the same action myself, which gives me a sense of satisfaction. And I also feel that if someone has done something to disturb me, I will always respond with a similar action, no matter what. I feel like I've delusion of reference.