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I have been married to my husband since 5 years now and we have a 4 year old child . We are a happy family , but recently what happened was that we were having a family gathering where my husband's very long distance relative who is my dur ke jiju came to our place too , I don't know why I felt attracted towards him and I keep on feeling that maybe he likes me too . Even though I am loyal to my husband and I love him but this thing of getting attracted to someone else is making me feel guilty . I already am undergoing treatment for anxiety and ocd by my psychiatrist . I feel that I am doing something very wrong by being attracted to someone else . What if I develop emotional affair with my jiju ? I am having many what ifs . Please help
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I am proud of genuine souls like you who open up the issues in the head before spilling out on the families. Appreciate you, woman! As a professional, I would recommend you to write down your “what ifs” and analyse the negatives in that! Once you’re done, you can put a positive comment for every if and remind yourself that this is all in your power and ability to do.
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Hi,It's completely normal to feel attracted to someone else, even when you are in a committed relationship. It's important to acknowledge these feelings but also to understand that acting on them would be detrimental to your marriage and family. It's great that you are already seeking help for your anxiety and OCD, as talking to your psychiatrist about these feelings can help you navigate them in a healthy way. It's important to set boundaries with your jiju to ensure that your relationship stays appropriate and does not develop into an emotional affair. Remember that being attracted to someone else does not make you a bad person, but it's how you handle those feelings that matters. Consider talking to your husband about your concerns and seek support from a therapist or counselor to help you work through these emotions.
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Hi,
Experiencing feelings of attraction towards someone other than your spouse can be unsettling, especially when you're dealing with anxiety and OCD.
Talk to your psychiatrist or Psychologist-therapist. They can help you understand these feelings, by identifying the underlying reasons . You will get the right support and strategies, to enable you to manage this situation and maintain your well-being. Therapy such as cognitive-behavioral techniques may be used to challenge and reframe your "what if" thoughts.
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Prioritize activities that reduce stress and improve your mental well-being, such as exercise, hobbies, or relaxation techniques.
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Connect with the psychologist to discuss in detail and resolve it.
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Ms. Rizwana Parvin T M
Counselling Psychologist
7 yrs exp
Coimbatore
Connect with your husband and spend quality time with him. Be romantic and intimate with your husband. The conversation between you both be not always work and managing chores in the house and buying things for everyday life. Spend romantic quality time where both of you enjoy. Avoid eye contact with jiju or keep it minimal as you are getting attracted. This may be coming up because your intimate relationship with your husband is less.
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I am glad you are seeking help. seek help with the professional.
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Ms. Pavitra Somaiya
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3 yrs exp
Indore
Getting attracted to someone is a part of a normal biological process. The feelings of guilt are coming as a by product because you are thinking it as a wrong deed.
Right and wrong are very subjective terminologies. However in many situations our emotions take a toll on us and we become predominantly driven by emotions. It is crucial to keep a check on the possible outcomes that can result in based on this action.
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