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Two sided people
My sister and few cousins. They speak two sided in the sense . My sister supported me and also supported the opposite person who spoke bad about me. My cousin complained about me to other cousin and complained about her to me. Are they toxic or they are trying to be good with everyone. What is the reason
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No body is perfect. So in every controversy both sides have some correct point and some wrong points. So your sister maybe trying to be just. It may not be harmful. On the other hand your cousin is also sharing his/her thought (may) with you.
So just don't give time to this kind of thing focus on your work.
There are lots of people around us who are toxic, you cant eliminate them, so learn to adjust in this world by focusing on your work, no need to judge them. judge the act not the person.
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People are such...!!!!
You need to improve perception and decision making skills.
Take counseling sessions for better introspection.
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Ms. Divya Bhatia
Psychologist
3 yrs exp
Bangalore
"Hey! I understand this could be really frustrating as everyone wants true and authentic people around.
Well, there may be multiple reasons for someone doing so, but if it makes you uncomfortable you can speak to them about the samme. Use 'I' statements - ""I feel upset when you talk behind my back"", or ""I do not like this behaviour"". Confront them aboutthe same.
Additionally, if you feel toxic in a relationship, you are not compelled to engage deeply. Choosing your health over toxicity is okay!
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If things still feel overwhelming, it would be advisable to talk to a therapist.
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Dr. Charanya
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13 yrs exp
Coimbatore
Wellness Greetings to you..
When ones Emotional intelligence with Emotional quotient is good, this is easy to calibrate. Don't take statements with emotion attached to evaluate, we may not take clarification on neutral grounds. See statements as factual information as they perceive. Perception of people vary and we can't do anything about it.
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Ms. Komal Singh Parihar
Psychologist
7 yrs exp
Navi Mumbai
Hello dear
I can understand what you might be feeling. There could be reasons behind your sister and cousins behavior. It doesn't mean that they are two sided. Everyone is a mix of good as well as habits that we don't prefer. For knowing the reasons, you need to discuss it with a counsellor or a psychologist in detail.
You can also contact me. Let's discuss your issues in detail so that you can find your own conclusions and solutions.
Don't worry much, everything is going to be fine soon. Take care and stay safe.
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Ms. Hema Sampath
Counselling Psychologist
18 yrs exp
Bangalore
Probably..
Most of the time, all of us in trying to to be in good books of others, sometimes knowingly and sometimes unknowingly we behave like that..
We need not worry about these kind of behaviours, unless it affects us or the relationship between us..
If you maintain those relationships by balancing, you can also lead a cheerful and happy life..
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