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Triggered post trauma stress disorder
I was sexually abused in childhood by a specific place persons when I was 12 to 14 year. At that time i want to tell my parents but they don't give me enough time and they don't take seriously changes in my behavior from that time but I told all the things to my dad when I was 26 cause there are physical issue after that and mentally too but they don't take me seriously and they told me is age me ye sb hota h they think that's is self made story i can tell him multiple examples after that incident which things give me problem with specific dates. I still refuse to go that side road everyone knows about that I refused to marry a girl I love her so much but there relatives are from that side after the issue if anyone come from that side or any kind of picture of that place at anyone's home and WhatsApp instagram I block them immediately I feel my self in danger.
May I wrote a letter for my parents as I told with examples when I get problems after related things are done pls guide me
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It seems to be post traumatic Psychological changes which are causing stress disorder.
It needs to be treated asap otherwise it may get complicated.
It can be well treated with counseling sessions and homeopathic medicine effectively and without any side effects.
It needs to be addressed in a holistic approach for complete recovery.
You need an expert psychologist who is a good homeopathic physician.
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I have been working as a Homeopathic Psychiatrist and Counseling psychologist for the last 17 years of experience. You can contact me through an online appointment for further assistance.
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Hi, first of all you need to address the issues within yourself. I understand that the denial from parents made it harder for you. But we need to work within ourselves before we face anyone else. Your feelings are normal as a result of your past experience.
Please start taking Counselling sessions. It will help you out to get better and it will also help you to find ways how to deal with your relationship, family and other issues.
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Thank you for sharing something so painful and personal. What you experienced in childhood was not your fault, and your reactions today — fear, avoidance, blocking reminders, and feeling unsafe — are very common trauma responses. When trauma remains unheard or invalidated for years, the mind and body continue to react as if the danger is still present.
It is understandable that you want your parents to finally understand your experience. Writing a letter can actually be a healthy step because it allows you to express your feelings calmly and clearly without interruption. While writing, focus on:
how the incidents affected you emotionally and physically,
what triggers you even today,
and what kind of support or understanding you need from them now (not blame).
At the same time, healing from trauma usually needs structured therapy support. Trauma-focused counselling (such as trauma-focused CBT or EMDR) can help reduce triggers, fear responses, and feelings of danger gradually.
You are not weak for reacting this way — your mind is trying to protect you after a painful experience. With the right therapeutic support, these reactions can become manageable and you can start feeling safer again.
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If possible, consider starting regular therapy sessions so you don’t have to handle this alone.
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Consult with psychologist take therapy session you will be fine
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Consultation with me is advised
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Your body’s reaction now blocking people, refusing that road, feeling danger from photos that is trauma memory. Trauma is not just remembering. It is reliving. Your nervous system doesn’t know the difference between past and present when something reminds it.
When your parents dismissed you, that was a second wound. Not being believed hurts almost as much as the abuse itself. It makes you question your own reality. But your detailed memories, your physical symptoms, your avoidance these are not invented. Trauma imprints deeply, especially between 12–14. That age is sensitive. The brain is still wiring safety and trust.
You are not weak for still reacting.
Your system is protecting you.
About the letter.
Yes. Writing can help. Not to “prove” your pain. You don’t need to prove anything. But to say what you never got space to say.
When you write:
– Speak about how it affected you, not just what happened.
– Use specific examples of triggers and reactions.
– Tell them what you need now (belief? support? therapy?).
– Don’t argue. Don’t defend. Just state.
But understand something important:
A letter may not change them. It may give you relief. It may or may not give you validation. Write it for clarity, not expectation.
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I’m going to give you clear, grounded steps. No bluff.
First: stabilize your body.
Your reactions are trauma responses. That means your nervous system is stuck in threat mode. Start daily regulation:
– 5 minutes slow breathing (longer exhale than inhale).
– Cold water on face when triggered.
– Move your body hard (walk fast, push-ups, shake arms). Trauma energy needs movement.
Do this every day, not just during triggers.
Second: get trauma-focused therapy.
Not general counseling. Look specifically for “trauma-informed,” “EMDR,” or “somatic therapy.” Those work with body memory, not just talking. This is important.
Third: reduce triggers where possible.
Avoid that road. Block what you need to block. That’s not weakness. It’s containment while healing.
Fourth: stop trying to convince your parents for now.
You already told them. They didn’t respond well. Re-explaining repeatedly may retraumatize you. Shift your energy to people who can support you.
Fifth: build one safe person outside family.
One. Friend, therapist, elder, support group. Trauma heals in safe connection.
Sixth: medical check-up if you have physical symptoms.
Trauma can cause pelvic pain, gut issues, headaches. Rule out medical causes alongside therapy.
Seventh: journal triggers.
When did it happen? What did you see/hear? What did your body feel? This builds awareness and reduces fear of your own reactions.
Important:
Your avoidance, hyper-alertness, blocking behavior these are protective patterns. We don’t shame them. We slowly retrain them.
You survived something real. Now healing is structured work, not emotional chaos.
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Don’t retraumatize yourself trying to prove your pain.
Explaining it again and again to people who refuse to believe you can reopen the wound each time. Protect your energy. Not everyone earns access to your story.
Do not blame yourself for your reactions. But also don’t excuse harmful behavior (like throwing objects) forever. Survival responses are understandable — they still need regulation.
You were hurt. That’s real.
Now your responsibility is healing not proving, not fighting, not collapsing.
Move carefully. Move intentionally. Protect your peace while you rebuild it.
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I'm really sorry you're going through such a painful and difficult experience. Writing a heartfelt letter to your parents can be a way to express your feelings, share your pain, and help them understand what you've endured and how it continues to affect you. In the letter, you can calmly explain how the childhood abuse has impacted your mental and physical health, and how their dismissive attitude has added to your suffering. Include specific examples and dates to help them understand the seriousness of your feelings. Emphasize that your fears and reactions, like avoiding that road or blocking certain people, are responses to trauma and danger you still feel. Let them know that you need their support, understanding, and compassion, and that healing will require their acknowledgment and help. Remember, seeking support from a mental health professional can also provide you with tools to cope and heal from this trauma.
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Hi, Consult a counselling psychologist
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I am truly sorry that you went through such a painful experience and that your attempts to share your truth weren't met with the support you deserved. Please know that your feelings are completely valid; it is natural for your mind and body to try to protect you from things that remind you of past trauma, even years later. What you are experiencing the fear, the need to avoid certain places, and the physical stress is a standard response to an extraordinary hardship. You are not "making this up," and you are not alone in feeling this way.
Counseling provides a safe, private space where your story is believed without judgment.A counselor helps you understand why your brain signals "danger" when you see certain pictures or people, helping you regain a sense of safety.A therapist can help you process these memories so they no longer feel like current threats, teaching you tools to calm your nervous system and manage the "triggers" that cause you to block others. You don't have to carry this burden or prove your truth to your parents alone; a professional can help you find peace and decide how to move forward on your own terms.
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When someone is suffering from trauma and also lives in an invalidating environment it becomes next to impossible to talk about it. It then manifests in different aspects of life that may or may not be related to the initial traumatic situation. In your case, the blocking of relatable social media perceived as threat.
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Pl contact a trauma therapist who has experience in EMDR and part work therapy. U may contact me also.
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It is better to take therapy for trauma because it can resolve many things
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What happened to you was real. And the fear, blocking people, avoiding that road all of that is your nervous system trying to protect you. When someone is abused and later not believed, it hurts twice.
Yes, you can write a letter. Keep it simple and honest. Share what happened in short, how it affected you then, how it still affects you now, and what you need from them maybe just belief and support. Don’t try to prove, just express. Even if they don’t fully understand, your healing is still possible. Take therapy. You can connect with me on nine two six six seven two six zero six five.
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Ms. Renuka Chauhan
Mental Health Counselor
2 yrs exp
Delhi
First, I want to say this very clearly, what happened to you was not your fault. You were a child. You deserved protection, safety, and to be believed. I’m so sorry that when you finally gathered the courage to tell your parents, you were not taken seriously. That kind of response can feel like a second trauma.
The fear you feel when you see that place, those relatives, or even pictures connected to it that is a trauma trigger response. Your body remembers the danger, even if others don’t understand it. Blocking people, refusing to go there, feeling unsafe, these are protective responses. They are not “drama” or “made-up stories.”
It also makes sense that this has affected your relationships and life decisions. Trauma doesn’t just disappear with age. It stays in the nervous system until it is processed safely.
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Writing a letter to your parents can be helpful, but it’s important to do it in a way that protects your emotional safety. I am a trauma informed therapist and in therapy, we will:
• Help you process the abuse in a safe, structured way
• Work on reducing triggers and panic responses
• Support you in deciding whether and how to communicate with your parents
• Help you rebuild a sense of safety and control
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Ms. Rizwana Parvin T M
Counselling Psychologist
7 yrs exp
Coimbatore
Individual counselling is required per week to overcome childhood trauma .... Vent out to the counselor all your baggage ... You'll feel much better and lighter after psychological guidance make a decision. Take care
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Ms. Smriti
Counselling Psychologist
18 yrs exp
Bangalore
Connect with psychiatrist and psychologist to discuss in detail
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