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.. I am 18 years old girl ... I have toxic environment in my house... I also have some toxic member ... Whenever .. I see them .. my body starts trembling... My mind goes blank .. I couldn't even think something.... When they see that member normally . When environment is not fighting.. schene ... My body act normal .. but when there is fight or quarrel happening ..my body starts trembling.. idk what is that .... Is that anger or something
Plz help me I suffer a lot .. I also starts throwing things near me .. like clothes, phone .. or something else ..
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It seems to post traumatic anxiety leading to anger outbursts.
It needs to be treated asap otherwise it may get complicated.
It can be well treated with counseling sessions and homeopathic medicine effectively and without any side effects.
It needs to be treated in a holistic approach for complete recovery.
You need an expert Psychologist who is a good homeopathic physician.
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This is not just anger. What you are describing sounds like a trauma-triggered fight–flight response.
When there is fighting or when you see that toxic member, your nervous system feels unsafe. That is why:
Your body trembles
Your mind goes blank
You cannot think
You throw things
It is your body reacting to stress, not “craziness” or bad behavior.
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Start grounding when trembling begins (5-4-3-2-1 technique or slow breathing).
Move to a safer space immediately when fights start.
Journal what exactly triggers the reaction.
Seek therapy (trauma-informed counselling).
If possible, reduce exposure to the toxic member.
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Do not suppress it. Suppressing makes it stronger.
Also, throwing objects can slowly become a harmful coping pattern — we need to replace it with safe release (stress ball, pillow hitting, cold water on face, paced breathing).
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Hi. I completely understand what you are going through. What you are describing sounds like your body is going into a survival response when there is conflict. When we grow up in environments that feel tense, our nervous system becomes highly alert. Your body is naturally reacting to stress.
Right now, i would suggest you one of the grounding techniques which can calm you down during that moment. One of them is the "Slow Breathing Technique". Whenever you are experiencing such a trembling feeling the next time, slow breathe (Close your eyes if possible, Inhale for 4 seconds and Exhale for 6 seconds).. This can calm your body temporarily and once you feel calm, please step away physically from that scene for some time..
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If you feel you need a one on one help, please do connect with me to get more deeper healing sessions..
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Whenever you feel anxious try to change your breathing pattern.. Make it slow and it helps.. Take care..
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Thank you for sharing this. What you’re describing sounds less like anger and more like a stress or fear response when there is conflict around you. Trembling, a blank mind, or the urge to throw nearby objects can happen when the body feels overwhelmed or unsafe.
Nothing is “wrong” with you — this is your nervous system reacting to a difficult environment.
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I feel you should connect with a professionally expert counselling psychologist.
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Please follow few steps ... Try slow breathing (inhale slowly, then exhale longer), and focus on something around you to help your body calm down. These small steps can help you regain control.
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What you’re describing appears more like a conditioned stress response than simple anger. In chronically conflictual environments, the nervous system can become sensitized, automatically shifting into fight-or-flight when exposed to triggers such as arguments or certain individuals. Trembling, mental blankness, and sudden urges to throw objects suggest emotional flooding and difficulty regulating intense affect in the moment. These reactions often develop when a person feels unsafe or unheard over time. This does not indicate weakness; it reflects adaptation to stress. A thorough psychological assessment would help clarify the pattern and guide structured interventions focused on emotional regulation, grounding, and resilience-building strategies.
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Hi who are toxic members ? Is your parents or any other person if the condition is very severe you do your safety first talk with your beloved person tell them each and everything . If you have any other mental and physical issues connect with psychologist
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I understand, that’s what you are describing sounds like a stress response, not just anger.
When conflict happens, your nervous system may shift into fight-or-flight mode , which explains the trembling, blank mind, and impulsive reactions.
If this continues please seek counselling support. Your reactions are understandable though with the right guidance, you can learn to feel calmer, safer, and more in control.
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Try this -
*step away as soon as voices rise.
• Slow your breathing (inhale 4, exhale 6) until your body settles.
• Release energy safely — squeeze a pillow, journal, or take a brisk walk.
• Build at least one safe emotional outlet outside home (friend, teacher, counsellor).
• Eat regularly and sleep adequately — low body weight and fatigue can intensify stress reactions.
• Reduce exposure — use headphones, calming music, or step outside briefly when tension rises.
• Practice grounding daily (not only during fights) so your body learns calm as a habit.
• Journal patterns — notice your triggers and how long it takes to feel regulated again.
These small, consistent steps can gradually help your nervous system feel safer and more stable.
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Half-Smile and Willing Hands: Use body language to signal safety to your brain. Relax your facial muscles and unclench your hands, even if you don't feel calm yet.
Observing Limits: Practice noticing the exact moment you start to feel uncomfortable or angry in an interaction. This early warning system helps you exit before you explode.
Maintain a "Good Object" Internally: Keep a strong mental image of a person, place, or higher power that represents safety and validation. Mentally "visit" them when you feel isolated.
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session wise discussion
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"In a day, when you don't come across any problems - you can be sure that you are travelling in a wrong path"
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What you are describing seems like a trauma response. Many people who have gone through extreme situations in the past or are experiencing something stressful in current life which has been ongoing for quite some time their bodies adapt to cope. It's a natural response to stress for many. You feel that there is this "toxic member" who has been affecting you negatively. It's like there's a feeling that you've been in a dynamic where a lot of damage to your self esteem, nervous system (in this case trembling-fear response). It's a hard place to be. And being in constant hyper alert mode changes and has negative impacts on the body over time.
You don't have to continue to bear this alone
Talking to a therapist and working out strategies to get through this can help bring more empowerment and make you feel less helpless.
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Consultation with me is advised
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This is a typical anxiety response that your body is showing. When u see the members your body perceives threat and starts trembling. But when u see them fight this threat perception intensifies and your body shows more and intense symptoms. Anxiety symptoms are called fight flight symptoms that arise when body perceives threat so that the person can stay safe by either getting ready for a fight (fight) or running away (flight). These symptoms can be extremely painful and uncomfortable.
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If symptoms are severe they can only be mitigated by taking therapy from a professional or have medicines
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Immediately contact a clinical psychologist like me. Symptoms may worsen if left untreated.
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Growing up in a toxic environment trains your nervous system to stay alert all the time. Like a soldier who never gets to leave the battlefield. Even if the fight isn’t about you, your body remembers previous stress and reacts.
The fact that you are normal when things are calm tells me something important:
You are not unstable.
You are reacting to instability.
There’s also something else. When you say you tremble when you see a specific member during fights, that suggests your body associates that person with past emotional threat. Maybe shouting. Maybe humiliation. Maybe unpredictability. The body stores emotional memory even when we try to forget it. Throwing things is not “bad character.” It’s dysregulated nervous system energy. But we do need to work on safer outlets.
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Here’s what helps immediately during a fight:
When you feel trembling start:
1.Plant both feet hard on the floor.
2.Press your toes down.
3.Take one slow breath in for 4 seconds.
4.Exhale for 6 seconds.
For the throwing behavior:
You need a “safe release ritual.”
Keep something like:
– a pillow you can punch
– a notebook you can scribble hard in
– or even go to the bathroom and run water loudly while you breathe
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For further discussion, book an appointment for consultation.
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It is completely understandable and valid that you are feeling this way; what you are experiencing is a natural reaction to a very difficult environment. When you live in a place where you feel unsafe or constantly stressed, your body’s internal alarm system stays on high alert to try and protect you. The trembling, the "blank" mind, and the sudden urge to throw things are not signs that you are "weak" or "crazy" they are signs that your nervous system is overwhelmed by trauma and survival stress. You are essentially in a constant state of "fight or flight" because your brain is trying its best to keep you safe from the toxicity around you.
Counseling can help by giving you a safe space to process these heavy emotions without judgment. A counselor can teach you grounding techniques to stop the trembling in the moment and help you regain control when your mind goes blank. Through therapy, you can build a "toolkit" of coping strategies to manage chronic stress, protect your mental peace, and slowly heal the impact that this toxic environment has had on your well-being.
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Jo aap feel kar rahi hain wo sirf “anger” nahi lag raha. Ye body ka trauma ya fear response ho sakta hai. Jab ghar me fight ya kisi toxic member ko dekhte hain, to body automatically survival mode (fight-flight-freeze) me chali jati hai.
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Long term me therapy lena bahut helpful rahega, kyunki aap clearly chronic stress me reh rahi hain. Aap weak nahi hain — aapka body sirf protect kar raha hai.
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Agar aap chahein to hum is par detail me kaam kar sakte hain sessions me — triggers, emotional regulation aur safe coping develop karenge.
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Hi, these symptoms are due to a chronic toxic environment at your home. We can call it trauma response. Please talk to a therapist soon so that you can place yourself away from the toxicity and make take care of your mental health and physical health both.
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Hi… I read your message very carefully.
What you are experiencing is not anger.
From a psychological point of view, this looks like a trauma response.
When you see that particular family member or when there is fighting at home, your brain starts feeling unsafe. Even if nothing is directly happening to you at that moment, your body remembers past stress and reacts automatically.
That is why your body starts trembling, your mind goes blank and you feel out of control.
This is how the nervous system reacts after staying for a long time in a toxic or unsafe environment.
It is very commonly seen in people who have trauma or PTSD-like symptoms.
So please understand, nothing is wrong with you.
Your body is only trying to protect you.
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I would strongly suggest that you start therapy with a trauma-informed therapist (PTSD therapy).
When you look for a counsellor, you can ask for:
trauma therapy
PTSD-informed counselling
In the first few sessions, the therapist will help you:
feel emotionally safe
calm your nervous system
understand your triggers (what exactly makes your body react)
If your home environment is still stressful, the therapist can also help you create a small safety and coping plan for yourself.
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When you feel trembling or your mind goes blank, try this: Put both your feet on the floor and slowly notice
5 things you can see
4 things you can touch
3 things you can hear
This helps your brain come out of danger mode.
• Try slow breathing: Breathe in for 4 seconds
Breathe out for 6 seconds
Do this for 2–3 minutes.
• Please don’t feel ashamed if you feel like throwing things.
This is your body releasing stress.
But try safer ways instead, like: – squeezing a pillow
– tearing paper
– holding something cold
– quietly going to another room when a fight starts
• If possible, try to reduce your exposure to fights and quarrels.
Even physically stepping away from that situation helps your nervous system.
• One very helpful habit: Write down what you notice just before your body reacts
(what you saw, what you heard, what you felt).
This will help you a lot in therapy later.
You are not weak.
You are responding to a very difficult environment.
With the right PTSD-informed therapy, these reactions can become much lighter and more manageable over time.
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Hi, Consult a psychologist
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First of all, I want you to know that what you are experiencing is not “anger.”
When your body starts trembling, your mind goes blank, and you feel frozen during fights or when you see that person ,this is a stress or trauma response. It is your nervous system going into fight, flight, or freeze mode because it feels unsafe.
Your body is reacting to fear and emotional threat, not weakness.
Growing up in a toxic or violent environment can make your body very sensitive to conflict. When there is no fighting, your body feels normal. But when arguments start or things are thrown near you, your system goes into survival mode automatically.
That trembling is anxiety and fear not madness, not drama, and not anger.
You also mentioned that things are thrown near you. That is not okay. That is emotionally unsafe and can become physically unsafe.
With proper counselling and emotional support, these symptoms can reduce significantly. Trauma responses are treatable.
If you wish, you may connect for professional guidance and support.
Warm regards,
Psychologist Rajni Sharma (PGDC)
Psychological Counsellor
22+ Years of Experience
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Hi,
I'm really sorry you're going through this. It sounds like you're experiencing a lot of stress and anxiety from the toxic environment at home and the difficult interactions with certain family members. Your body's reactions, like trembling, blank mind, and throwing things, are signs that you're under a lot of emotional distress. This isn't about anger alone; it's likely a combination of fear, anxiety, and feeling overwhelmed. Your mind and body are trying to cope with the intense feelings you're experiencing. It's important to remember that you don't have to face this alone. Consider reaching out to a trusted friend, school counselor, or mental health professional who can help you process these emotions and develop healthy ways to cope. You deserve a safe and supportive environment, and seeking help is a brave step toward feeling better and gaining control over your feelings. Please take care of yourself and know that support is available.
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Hi, Your body is going into panic mode (first you freeze then you displace that emotion in throwing things to release that ) whenever there a anger scene as it has registered this as a threat to your survival.
Few things you can do
1. To relax yourself , if you can step out from the situation for a while , then calm urself down by deep breaths for 21 times
2. 5-4-3-2-1 method , 5 things you can see, 4 things you can touch,3 things you can hear, 2 things you can smell and 1 thing you can taste
This will bring you in present moment
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For more deeper work you can book a therapy session
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Hi
When your body trembles, your mind goes blank, and you feel out of control during fights, that is not just anger. It sounds like your nervous system is going into a threat response. Growing up in a toxic or unpredictable environment can make your body stay on alert. So when conflict starts, your system reacts automatically with shaking, freezing, or even explosive behavior like throwing things. It is your body trying to protect you, not a sign that you are “crazy” or bad.
But throwing objects shows that the stress is overflowing and needs safer release. You deserve support in learning how to regulate these reactions. Simple grounding techniques, stepping away from the fight, cold water on your wrists, or slow breathing can help in the moment. Long term, therapy can help you process the fear and anger stored in your body. Take therapy. You can connect with me on nine two six six seven two six zero six five.
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Ms. Kiara Jain
Psychologist
10 yrs exp
Mumbai
Hi, so sorry for what you are going through
I know it’s not pleasant , such situations can be extremely terrible to be in especially when it’s a family who you can’t distant yourself from
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Try staying as far away as possible from that member , try disconnecting from that person, lead your own life , distract yourself when your own activities such as studies, job, activities ,
When you feel anger , try screaming into a pillow to remove that anger , then write down what you feel
Highly recommend playing any sport available around you as well
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I understand this is a tough time, try focusing on yourself and not getting involved in that persons life
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Ms. Neha Sachdev
Psychologist
11 yrs exp
Delhi
Hi
Yes you are going through toxic/stress inducing situations. Since this toxic situation is for a long time, you body and mind are protecting you hence trying to keep you safe, yet u cannot take action towards it as you feel helpless.
You need to cope with such situations as it doesn’t define u yet u need to understand your emotions and cope with them. You are not powerless. You need to find ur power to overcome your stress/anxiety.
Happy to help
Contact me at eight three six eight zero five three seven one zero
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Ms. Smriti
Counselling Psychologist
18 yrs exp
Bangalore
One more thing — if fights include physical violence or you feel unsafe, please prioritize safety first. Stay near exits, keep phone charged, have a trusted person you can call.
Your body is not weak. It is trying to protect you
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Ms. Rizwana Parvin T M
Counselling Psychologist
7 yrs exp
Coimbatore
It's a psycho somatic disorder for an underlying condition...Consult a counselor and also a psychiatrist... Take care of your health
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Ms. Renuka Chauhan
Mental Health Counselor
2 yrs exp
Delhi
I’m really sorry you’re going through this. The trembling and your mind going blank during fights sound like a stress or trauma response, not just anger. When someone feels unsafe, the body can go into fight, flight, or freeze mode, that’s likely what’s happening to you.
Throwing things can be a sign that you’re feeling emotionally overwhelmed. It doesn’t mean you’re bad it means you’re struggling. When we don’t feel heard or we are unable to effectively express our needs or the elders don’t have the capacity to understand us, the frustration comes out as anger.
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You don’t have to handle this alone. In therapy, we can help you feel more in control of your emotions and calmer in your body, so that you are effective in communication and if people around you do not listen, you won’t feel so triggered by them. If you’re ready, we can schedule a session and work through this together
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Understanding that the environment is a problem is a sign you have good emotional intelligence and awareness, all you need are some tools to equip yourself when dealing with difficult people and manage your emotions when you are triggered by them
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