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I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through such a difficult and painful situation. Dealing with family interference in a marriage can be incredibly challenging. Here are some suggestions that might help you navigate this situation: Counseling or therapy: Consider seeking the help of a therapist or counselor who specializes in relationships and family dynamics. They can provide a neutral space for both you and your husband to express your feelings and work through your issues. Communication: Try to have an open and honest conversation with your husband about how you feel. Choose a calm moment and express your concerns without blaming or accusing him. Use "I" statements to explain how his actions make you feel. For example, say "I feel hurt and unsupported when I sense your mother's influence in our relationship" instead of "You always listen to your mother and never support me."

I can understand that there are few things happening in your life  which are  not in your control. There are two choices for you 1.continue try to control what you can not control( like your husband & mother in law ) 2. Accept that you cannot control others but only your attitudes, behaviour, values.same thing apply to others. No body can change others attitudes only that person. This thing apply on your husband too . Your mother in law cannot change his attitudes but only your husband can . There is difference between influencing others and controlling others . We can only influence others to change their behaviour, attitudes, it is up to them whether they want to influenced by you or not . We can only only influenced them better when we are not emotionally disturb ( like anger , hurt , anxiety etc  ) so we have to learn how to influenced others but without emotional disturbance with assertiveness . Assertiveness doesn't guarantee results but increase probability of results. If all efforts fail You have 3 options Tolerate the situation with emotional disturbance Tolerate the situation without emotional disturbance Leave the situation

go for counselling

Seek your family support.. Maybe you can request your parents to come and stay with you guys for some time.. So that they can also experience the situation and guide both of you appropriately.. If you think, that isn't possible, then meet a Relationship Counselor /Marriage Counselor to listen to both of you from a neutral perspective and to suggest you people..

Hi. I think it’s important to understand the place every relationship has in everyone’s life. And your husband needs to understand the same. Once you are married the dynamics and relationships change and evolve in their own way. Try and explain that to your husband. Try talking to him honestly about how you feel a lack of his support in your married relationship and explain to him your concerns. If he still does not understand you, there is no point explaining it to him anymore. You try and control your behaviour and how you want to react to all of this. Try not taking it personally and keep your calm, that does not mean you do not voice your concerns. Be assertive and say things that you are not comfortable with (it can be assumed that you are otherwise). If your husband does not understand boundaries with his mother, you keep your boundaries intact. Give the relationship a little time and see if it changes. If you’re newly married, give them sometime to accept boundaries and changes. Honesty is always a better way to convey your feelings. If he still does not understand, seek couple counselling. You can individually seek counselling as well which will help you to deal with the current situation more tactfully. You can also try and convey it your mother-in-law politely that these things are affecting you and your marriage.

Couple counselling or individual counselling.

I can see that you're going through a really tough time with your husband and his mother. It's difficult when family dynamics create stress in a relationship. Have you tried talking to him openly about how you feel and how this situation is affecting you? Sometimes, having a heartfelt conversation can make a big difference. If that hasn't worked, it might be a good idea to consider couples counseling. A neutral third party can help you both express your feelings and work towards a solution. Remember, your well-being is important, so don't hesitate to seek support from friends or a therapist to help you cope with the stress. You deserve a healthy and supportive relationship.