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Restarting Sexual life after long gap
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I have been sexually inactive for the last 2 years due to a strained relationship. Sexual life was totally ignored during this period. Now I'm about to start a physical relation again but now I find it a little challenging. I'm able to get full erection and when I try to get on the protection, due to its elasticity I tend to ejaculate even before it's fully rolled down. I feel nervous when this happens. I'm not right away looking for any medication but want to give a try for some counselling if someone can monitor and guide me. I'll be highly grateful. I'm Bangalore based and would like to consult to work on this issue.
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Dear Practo User,
Your concern appears to be more related to performance anxiety and heightened excitement after a long period of sexual inactivity rather than a serious physical problem. The fact that you are able to achieve a good erection is actually a positive sign.
After a long sexual gap, many men experience increased sensitivity, nervousness, fear of performance, or early ejaculation while putting on a condom or during initial intimacy. Anxiety itself can make the ejaculation reflex happen faster.
Since you are not immediately looking for medication, counselling and guided sex therapy would be a very good approach in your case. Techniques such as anxiety management, gradual desensitisation, breathing control, start-stop exercises, squeeze techniques, and condom practice sessions often help significantly.
You may also try:
• Practising condom application alone to reduce nervousness
• Using thicker condoms to reduce sensitivity
• Avoiding rushing during intimacy
• Focusing less on “performance” and more on comfort and connection
Most importantly, do not lose confidence. This is a very common and treatable issue, especially after a prolonged period of abstinence. With proper guidance and reassurance, most men recover normal confidence and control naturally.
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This is commonly due to anxiety/performance pressure after long sexual inactivity and is usually treatable with sex counselling, relaxation techniques, condom-practice training, and behavioral therapy. Consulting a qualified sexologist/psychosexual therapist in Bengaluru would be helpful.
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Be stress free..
Sleep well..
Avoid smoking..
If still problem persists then u take herbal supplements..
To be sexually fit completely..
To enjoy sexual activity and satisfy your partner completely
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consult for guidance
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Hello Practo User, use homoeopathic medications for your problem to get Instant and effective results.Its Curable, no need to worry about. Homoeopathic medicines plays Excellent role to treat Such problems in a hollistic way without any side effect.I suggest you to message me your complete history in private chat with all reports & details & Consult Online through Practo. I will guide you for holistic & effective Results with homoeopathy ! Take care !! Best Regards:)
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Consult a sexologist who is qualified or any GP nearby they will guide you .
It is manageble.
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Exercise regularly, add meditation and breathing exercises to your routine.
Start doing kegel exercises and practice start and stop methods (you can check on YouTube).
Don't distance yourself from sex. With increased frequency of sexual activity comes great timing and confidence.
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there is no harm in opting for medicine for a short duration, as it will boost your confidence and you will be able to overcome the issue quickly.
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What you are describing is very commonly seen after a long period of sexual inactivity, emotional strain, or loss of confidence in intimacy. The fact that you are still able to get a full erection is actually a positive sign and suggests that your basic erectile function is intact. The ejaculation happening while trying to put on the condom is often related more to heightened sensitivity, nervous anticipation, performance anxiety, and overexcitement rather than a severe physical disorder.
Performance anxiety and situational Premature ejaculation commonly occur when someone restarts intimacy after a long gap, especially after emotional stress or relationship strain. The mind becomes highly alert and self-conscious during the moment, and even the stimulation of rolling the condom can trigger ejaculation because the nervous system is already overexcited.
The good thing is that you are approaching this maturely by seeking counseling and guidance rather than immediately depending on medicines. Such issues often improve significantly with reassurance, confidence rebuilding, gradual exposure, and proper sexual counseling.
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Try not to panic or feel embarrassed about what is happening. Avoid repeatedly âtestingâ yourself alone, because excessive self-monitoring often increases anxiety further. Instead, focus on rebuilding comfort and confidence slowly. Practicing relaxation, breathing control, and getting familiar with condom handling in a calm setting can gradually reduce the nervous response. Sometimes simply reducing the mental pressure to âperform perfectlyâ leads to major improvement. Since you are specifically interested in counseling and guided support, consulting us would be a very reasonable and healthy step. A supportive, non-judgmental consultation can help identify the psychological triggers and guide you practically toward rebuilding sexual confidence. For confidential and supportive guidance regarding sexual wellness, performance anxiety, and intimacy-related counseling, you may also connect with us at 9 3 1 5 6 6 1 5 6 5.
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Practice relaxation and deep breathing before intimacy. Avoid rushing while putting on condoms. Maintain regular exercise and proper sleep. Reduce self-criticism and performance pressure. Focus on emotional comfort and connection rather than âperfect timingâ. With reassurance, counseling, and gradual rebuilding of confidence, many men recover very well from such situational intimacy difficulties. Thank you
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Dr. Murtaza Ali
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Srinagar
Take online consultation for addressing the concerns
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Dr. Moin Ahmad Siddiqui
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Lucknow
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