I am in a relationship with a girl and I love her and her every action is affecting me a lot I feel anxiety stress panic because of her actions because she say some things that I don't like.. her behaviour.
for example .
She say i love you a lot but for fun I want to meet boys for Only one day chat with them to understand them.
I will date somebody you date someone else for timepass...will go on date (only date nothing else) then again we will be together...and stuff like this.....
I asked her why all this
She replied I hate boys,
But I want to understand them I want to know them?
She has a fear of public she can't face peoples.
Then how she can think all this?
Is this is fun, crazy...?
I don't feel good about all this.
But she always do anything for me every stuff she is true with me she never hide and lied with me.
But I don't like all this?
What should I do it's affecting me emotionally.
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I understand your predicament and would like to make a few suggestions that might help you. I want you to know that with awareness of how the mind works and how thoughts are generated, you will get better at dealing with them.
The nature of the Mind, which in simple terms we experience as thoughts, is such that, it will keep shifting its focus from one object/topic/event to another. Ii always needs something to hold on to.
Another important characteristic of the Mind is this - You will either have thoughts about the past or the future. This will keep alternating. Try thinking about the present moment - you will see that the Mind and 'Now' can never coexist.
The Mind has 3 states in general. Sometimes, you may find yourself having very positive, inspiring thoughts. During other times, you may find yourself very emotional, or all charged for action. Whereas during other times, you may feel very lethargic, dull or lazy. These states will keep alternating.
Having understood the nature of the mind, the first step towards mental health is to become aware of your thoughts. Learning to be an observer of your thoughts, learning to observe them from a distance like clouds passing in the sky.
The next step is knowing that you have the power to choose which thought you wish to focus on and act on and exercising that power. With practice, you will have better mastery over this process.
Having negative thoughts about anything and everything is something that plagues everybody from time to time. Trust me, even if everything was perfect, you will still find some shortcomings somewhere and brood about it. Tension or anxiety is a physiological response which is again part of being human. It is normal to have such thoughts about any situation.
As mentioned above, with practice, you will learn to focus and entertain only those thoughts are healthy enough to be acted upon.
Whenever you feel overwhelmed by thoughts, just bring your focus back to your breath and take a few relaxing breaths. You will automatically be able to focus on the task at hand and do what is required.
Whatever you feed your mind through your sense organs will be replayed to you as thoughts. Be conscious of this. Take care of the content you feed your mind - the kind of books you read, the websites you visit, the kind of music you listen to, the kind of food you eat, the kind of company you keep ( "You are an average of five people you spend most of your time with" )
Ask yourself :
Where would I like to see myself ten years from now?
What should I do today to reach there ten years from now?
What would I do if I knew I wouldn't fail?
What would I do if I weren't afraid?
No matter how impossible the answers might seem, I want you to know that you can and will make them possible. Take the first step. The rest will follow.
A beautiful future awaits you. Take ownership of every time, take responsibility for it and confidently work towards your dreams and aspirations. One day you will thank these dark moments for being the fuel for your success. Exercise daily and make sure you eat healthy.
Have faith in yourself. You are capable of dealing with this. You are going to do just fine.
Take care.
I think you both are confused about life, love and future..
Lacking some clarity...
I suggest both of you to consult therapist to understand yourself better...
You can reach me for an online consultation through this app.
https://prac.to/hema-sampath-psychologist-dir
Thankyou for Sharing, I appreciate that you approaching guidance from Professionals, I understand that you attached to her with full emotions, I understand how irritating and confused you must be feeling, But Remember one thing "Be with some one who is proud to have you!" Balance your emotions, try Understand yourself first, try to divert your mind into other positivity things, also Spent some time with your family and friends you will get realisations of emotional support by them also, if you still find difficult to deal than I suggest you to consult with Psychologist to help you best.
Next Steps
Consult with Psychologist.
Health Tips
Try to divert your mind into other Positivity.
Try to balance your emotions,
Understand your self well,
spend time with your family and friends.
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