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Not able to handle old father
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My father age 65 has hypertension and keeps repeating words and dicat like " Go and take shower" " Forcing people to take medicine" " Shouting and calling people if they don't come to the dinner table on time" Always hurrying people, doing other's share of work as he cannot wait for them to complete . This continous nagging makes me a angry. He is always hyperactive and does not sleep well. If we tell him not do something he is always in denail and tries to hide his mistake. He does not listen to anybody kindly help how can i handle my dad.
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It seems to be a late life geriatric psychosis. It needs to be addressed asap otherwise it may get complicated.
It can be treated well with counseling sessions and homeopathic medicine effectively.
Homeopathic medicine would be a good solution for your dad at his age.
It can be well treated with a holistic approach for complete recovery.
You need an expert psychologist who is a good homeopathic physician.
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It is a very challenging situation for you as handling an ageing father is not at all easy & that too if things are more complex. His actions make you angry as this is an everyday situation & it is becoming unbearable for you. I can only imagine how you must be coping up with all this with trying to balance your personal n professional life & your home situation.
I know you want to help your Dad in a more manageable way & want to see him relaxed.
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Reach out for sessions.
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Try to know & understand the why behind the what. There must be reasons behind this behaviour.
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It sounds like your father’s restlessness, repetitive speech, hyperactivity, and denial are deeply affecting both him and your family. Given his age, hypertension, sleep issues, and behavioral changes, this could be more than just a personality trait—it may be linked to anxiety, cognitive decline, or an underlying neurological condition like early dementia or impulse control issues.
How to Handle This:
1. Stay Calm & Set Boundaries – Instead of arguing, use a calm but firm tone when he starts nagging. Say, “Dad, I hear you, but I need space right now.”
2. Redirect Instead of Confronting – If he insists on rushing people, gently engage him in another task to shift his focus.
3. Check His Sleep & Stress Levels – Poor sleep and high blood pressure can worsen these behaviors. Encourage relaxation techniques or speak to a doctor about better sleep strategies.
4. Medical Evaluation – Given his age and symptoms, a neurologist or psychiatrist’s assessment might help rule out cognitive or emotional concerns. If he’s resistant, frame it as a routine check-up rather than a mental health evaluation.
I know this is exhausting, but remember—he’s not doing this to hurt you; something inside him feels out of control. Prioritize your own emotional boundaries while guiding him toward support.
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Hi,
It sounds like your father is exhibiting behaviors that may be related to his hypertension and possibly other underlying issues, such as anxiety or cognitive changes that can occur with age. It's important to approach this situation with empathy and understanding, as these behaviors can be distressing for both him and your family. Consider having an open and calm conversation with him about his behavior, expressing your concerns without being confrontational. It might also be beneficial to encourage him to speak with a healthcare professional who can assess his mental and physical health, as medication or therapy might help manage his symptoms. Establishing a structured routine at home can also provide him with a sense of stability and reduce his need to rush others. Additionally, finding activities that can help him relax, such as light exercise or mindfulness practices, may improve his overall mood and sleep quality. Remember, patience and communication are key, and seeking support from a professional can be invaluable in navigating these challenges.
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Thanks for reaching out. Your father has hypertension and you are worried about his behaviour. I suggest that you consult a psychiatrist and explain about your father’s behaviour. It is important to know what is causing him to be hyperactive. It is known that hypertension can cause anxiety and mood swings. I understand you are worried about your father. With the help of a mental health professional he can gradually work on feeling better..
I suggest you consult a psychiatrist and explain about your father’s behaviour and consult a psychologist for counselling sessions..Try to consult a psychiatrist at the earliest. Your father needs to consult a psychologist as well. A psychologist will determine the impact of hypertension on anxiety and mood. A psychologist will provide techniques on ways to manage hypertension and anxiety. Lifestyle changes might be required.
I understand you are worried about your father. It is important for you to take care of yourself and try to maintain a positive atmosphere at home.
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Consult a psychiatrist at the earliest and consult a psychologist for counselling sessions..
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Contact me for counselling sessions. Along with counselling I can suggest natural foods to calm the mind.
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Ms. Farheen Moulana
Counselling Psychologist
4 yrs exp
Bangalore
Hi, I can understand that it must be hard for you to go through this day and in and out. We must also understand that your father is in that age where he feels unwanted, unheard and ignored and hence he must have taken this behaviour as a defence mechanism against those feelings. There are ways that he can cope up with this behaviour. How about you take your dad for geriatric counselling. You can connect with a specialised psychologist for this.
Old age is hard even for the family who are living along with them. Let’s see for the best ways that can help your dad and also make him and his knowledge of the world to a good use.
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Connect with a specialist
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Morning walks,
Spending time with friends his age group
Working on puzzles that can keep him Engaged
Having meaningful conversations
Journaling
Breathing exercises and meditation
Elderly yoga
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Ms. Shilpa Gandhi
Counselling Psychologist
5 yrs exp
Pune
I can see that your father’s restlessness and repetitive instructions are becoming difficult to manage. These behaviors may be his way of coping with internal distress, and given his hypertension, it’s important to consider possible medical or psychological factors. A consultation with a neurologist or geriatric psychiatrist could help identify any underlying cognitive or anxiety-related concerns.
Here are a few steps that might help:
1. Medical Evaluation – A check-up with a neurologist or psychiatrist can help rule out cognitive or anxiety-related concerns.
2. Gentle Reassurance – Instead of correcting him, acknowledging his feelings calmly might ease his urgency.
3. Structured Routine – Engaging him in small tasks, music, or light activities can help redirect his energy.
4. Setting Boundaries – If it gets overwhelming, take small breaks and respond with patience.
5. Self-care for You – Taking care of yourself is just as important; seeking support when needed can make things easier.
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consult neurologist or geriatric psychiatrist
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*Instead of correcting him, acknowledging his feelings calmly might ease his urgency. *Engaging him in small tasks, music, or light activities can help redirect his energy
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Ms. Smriti
Counselling Psychologist
18 yrs exp
Bangalore
It sounds like you’re dealing with a tough situation. Your father’s behavior—such as hyperactivity, controlling tendencies, and poor sleep—could be related to underlying health conditions like anxiety, a mood disorder, or even early signs of cognitive decline (e.g., dementia). It’s important to get him evaluated by a doctor to rule out these possibilities.
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