Need help. And hurt and not understand.

Hi you. First of all, kudos to you for saying, “Knowledge wise I will be able to correct myself.” I don’t know you well enough to be able to validate whether you are average or beyond but if you are able to accept that there is room for improvement, that already makes you a person with a growth mindset, and that is definitely not average, not many people have that. Secondly, neither education nor physical appearance is an indicator of reality, it is entirely perspective-based. You’ve definitely heard of great people who dropped out of school/college early right? Our education system is entirely flawed. With the internet, we live in the age of readily available information at your fingertips. The only thing that matters is the hunger and curiosity to learn and grow, not any fancy degrees. Since you’re saying you know you can improve knowledge wise, I won’t ponder on this more and will move on to the next problem - physical appearance. You know that beauty is subjective right? “Beauty lies in the eye of the beholder” is a cliché for a reason, because it’s the truth! People generally see around what is a reflection of their own self. So if someone is treating you badly or hurting you because they don’t think you look good, that’s not someone you want to be around or need validation from. They have to do a lot of internal work so let them be, let them say/do whatever you want to as long as it is not crossing any boundaries for you in your personal and professional life. If it crosses boundaries though, that is something you definitely need to do something about. For example if an employer is causing problems for you because of your physical appearance, you need to stand up for yourself unless its the actual requirement of your job. But in your personal life if someone doesn’t want to be friends with you for how you are, then it’s their loss, and you’ve just avoided time-waste. You can try a few things to work on your confidence though, and that may involve working on your mental and physical health and presentability. There’s a YouTube channel that may be of interest to you, check it out : https://www.youtube.com/user/charismaoncommand This guy does an in-depth analysis on how to handle situations like this. Hope it helps! But make sure you don’t try too hard to become someone you are not, the world loves genuine authentic people!

Dear Lady, I feel you look beautiful from whatever you have texted.Humility is the beauty in a woman. Inner beauty is more valuable than outer beauty. Being a good human being is the aim a person should have in life and that you already are. If people around are not good to you, it is not your fault or problem, it is their problem. Don't worry about them, be your best at all times. Keep away from negative people or who do not value you as much as possible. Remember the good always triumphs over the  bad. With Regards, Dr.Nisha James

Good day my Friend, Thank you for sharing your concern here. Your inferiority complex is the reason behind such mind set. In this world everything revolves around 80:20 principles. Means, in every individual including you and.me, 80% things are good and 20% things are not so good( both mentally &physically). It's all upto us on which side we want to focus. If you focus on 80%, you will accept and feel happy.  If you focus on 20%, then you will tolerate and feel unhappy about everything. In your case, you are only look at 20% side and hence all these feelings, thoughts and mindsets. Be positive.  You can slowly overcome this problem if you're willing to make few changes in your mindset, lifestyle, daily routines, food habbit,  and few other recommendations.  Are you? Feel free to reach me online for further assistance and assessment of your physical and mental symptoms to recommend suitable psychotherapy solutions.

Be aware,  every individual is unique due to their upbringing, culture, society, lifestyle, environment, food habits, education, family values etc. So there is no one fit solutions for all. General advices, Google search, youtube videos won't give better results in handling individual's emotional disturbance. You need a human touch  first to ventilate your feeling and  emotions and  to identify the issues next. Then suitable solutions and therapies plan can be identified jointly. Appreciate if you can take the next by   talking to a counselor/psychologist. Go ahead and connect with any of us online for better understanding of your problems.

Focus on building your personality Confifence is everything Because like this you will only be focusing on pleasing people Consult with me or any psychologist for therapy and counseling online All the best

Seems like you are not confident with what you have and that gives people a chance to hurt you and you need to understand that the people who don't understand you and hurt you instead do they really need your attention so much so that you would raise a question mark on your very existence.

If you wish Consult a clinical psychologist to work on your self esteem and sel confidence

Be confident Focus on yourself Never raise any doubts on your  attributes just because some people didn't like thm,their impression doesnot determine your worth

Hi, you can contact me for an online appointment and we can explore this narrative together