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I went to see a girl at her home for marriage purpose and there i was on escitalopram since 1 month due to existential anxiety , when i saw her i felt comfort and feeling that i can live life with her but after 2 days i started exploring attraction and feeling for her in my heart what i found is empty and i am pretty sure that i am not ready for marriage with her . I refused her but my family is not agreeing with this because it's the 5th time i am rejecting someone on the basis of feelings that i don't get feelings for her , I am very confused because i didn't find anything wrong with her and she is pretty also but i don't feel anything for her at all .
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Hi First I want you to know that what you’re experiencing is more common than you think, especially when anxiety and existential thoughts are already present. Being on escitalopram and under emotional pressure can blunt or confuse feelings, so the “emptiness” you noticed doesn’t automatically mean something is wrong with you or with her. Attraction and readiness for marriage are not always instant, and they can be clouded by over-analysis, fear of commitment, family expectations, and the constant checking of “am I feeling enough or not.” At the same time, repeatedly rejecting partners because of lack of feelings deserves gentle exploration, not self-blame. It’s important to understand whether this is about emotional numbness from anxiety/medication, fear of long-term commitment, unrealistic expectations of instant connection, or pressure making you disconnect emotionally. Therapy can help you separate genuine lack of readiness from anxiety-driven confusion so that decisions come from clarity, not fear. Take therapy. You can connect with me on nine two six six seven two six zero six five.
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It’s important to note that anxiety and escitalopram can blunt emotions and attraction, especially in the early phase. Also, repeatedly checking for “feelings” can itself be driven by anxiety, perfectionism, or fear of commitment, rather than lack of suitability. Marriage decisions need emotional stability and clarity, not urgency or family pressure. I’d advise not deciding right now, continue treatment, explore this pattern with a psychiatrist/therapist, and reassess once your anxiety is better controlled. Not feeling ready is a valid reason—don’t force yourself into a lifelong decision while confused.
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Hi, If you had a thought to go for this girl as a life partner, may be that next feeling of rejection is the result of your deep seated thought with regard to her other Physical features. This could be your subjective opinion and not a fact that withdraws you to get attracted towards her. Both of you can meet at a place to talk frankly and then realise what is good for you.
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Hi! Don't judge a book by it's cover. You should get to know a person ( know the goods and bads) spend adequate time with her and consider all aspects before you reject someone. If you are on a rejection spree it could also mean that you are scared of being rejected yourself & hence take the step first. Try to focus on what marriage means to you and what qualities a partner should have before you meet the next girl. Looks and superficial chemistry don't last long.
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