My friend is having some psychological issue regarding their married life.he was so depressed because his wife put her parents before her husband(my friend).They are married for 1.5 yrs.They have one daughter just newly born.My friend discussed this matter already with his wife but still he is believing the same about his wife His wife said that she love her husband(my friend) and her parents the same.my friend wants that his wife should put him ahead of their parents and his wife should be more close to him rather than her parents. I know this is a very complex situation. I am requesting that please suggest something that my friend can stop expecting the same from his wife.
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Both of them require counselling as this will help them to open up better and understand each others point of view. This will give clarity to each other than blaming.An online counselling or face to face session is needed.
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Hello thanks your approach to us, I appreciate your concern to your friend. There could be some relationship issues or communication problem/ expectations among they both. It is suggested that they both should look for marital counseling.
2. Conveying you anything may not work out, because you may not sure how they will communicate and what could be the problem in them.
3. Let your friend relax and try to spend time with his partner and can have open communication with her.
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suggest to visit relationship or marital counselor. take care and stay safe.
I suggest your friend and his wife to seek a Marriage Counselling to have a better clarity and understanding about themselves..
They can reach me by using the link given below :-
https://prac.to/hema-sampath-psychologist-dir
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The following is addressed to him :
Relationships undoubtedly enrich the quality of our lives. To love and be loved is indeed one of the most rewarding experiences that life offers. Nevertheless, it is primarily essential to ensure one's psychological and physical well being, just like how a strong foundation is that component of a building that is built first.
Before you begin to tackle any of the present challenges you are facing right now, kindly pay attention to the conflicts within you that deserve your attention and may need to be addressed first.
Seeking validation from others to feel worthy enough, loved, appreciated and cared for enough and failing in the process makes you take a good look at something you might have been ignoring in the past - seeing yourself for who you truly are, your strengths, your priorities, what really matters to you, what your aspirations are and how you could achieve them.
Our attitude towards life in general and things in particular is based on our Beliefs - what we believe to be true about ourselves and the world.
What are your core beliefs about yourself and the world?
What are those beliefs on the basis of which you feel not worthy enough and hence seek validation from outside ?
Who are the people who really matter to you - who unconditionally accept you the way you are - love you and respect you, no matter what?
Try writing them down and examine the validity of these beliefs.
Some of them may be limiting and negative in nature because of some of the feedback you might have received in the past - at home, in school, from your classmates, friends, relatives, etc. But once you are aware of them, you shed light on them,examine their truth, they can no longer manipulate your behavior or actions. As your beliefs change, your attitude changes, and words, actions and behavior follow.
Ask yourself :
Where would I like to see myself ten years from now?
What should I do today to reach there ten years from now?
What would I do if I knew I wouldn't fail?
What would I do if I weren't afraid?
No matter how impossible the answers might seem, I want you to know that you can make them possible. Take the first step. The rest will follow.
Take ownership of every moment, take responsibility for it and confidently work towards your dreams and aspirations. One day you will thank these dark moments for being the fuel for your success. Please set aside time for exercise daily and make sure you eat healthy every time.
Our challenges that seem to threaten our very existence are the ones that serve as fuel for our evolution.
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They need counselling. As their seem to be negative emotions playing stronger then positive emotions.
We will have to understand the parents / wife and husband relations , earlier life etc . This note is not enough to guide or conclude things.
Both needs counselling..
Need to talk to both to assess real scenarios..
Both has to be flexible as per each others needs.
You cannot clapp with one hand..
Marriage is two way communication..
Talk to me for personal sessions.
Good luck.
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