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I am married for 12 years with 2 kids.
Life was picture perfect until today
Both me and husband r working.
Today when I looked at my husband phone I saw he had a tinder account and he has messaged many girls.
Sex talks and he has even asked to meet one at a hotel.
When confronted he says he was just casual and he has never met anyone nor has the intention to meet anyone. He makes it look like this is all casual and am over reacting
Am lost
I dont know what to do
Can't discuss with anyone else in the family
Please help
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Thanks for reaching out. I understand you are disturbed by your husband’s behaviour. You are feeling anxious, upset, and helpless. You want to talk about your husband’s behaviour with someone. Consult a psychologist and explain about your husband’s behaviour. Talking to a psychologist will help you feel better.
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Contact me for counselling sessions. Along with counselling I can suggest natural foods to calm the mind.
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Hi, Consult a psychologist
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Seek couple counseling sessions to overcome your feelings and thoughts.
You need an expert Psychologist.
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You can contact me through an online appointment for further assistance
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Hey,
I understand what you're going through. Loyalty is important in relationships, and this situation is not casual; it's a way of escaping. Discuss with him why your relationship is heading in this direction.
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Need couple counseling. Kindly consultdem
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consult
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I think you have caught him red handed, I understand this incident is very disheartening. Loyalty is a main quality in a relationship, go for couple counselling, as he suggests, don't react too much as it will affect you. Be calm and resolve the issues with the help of a professional.
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couple or individual counseling is required
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self care and self love can be the biggest support for you at this time.
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I'm truly sorry to hear that you're going through such a difficult time. Discovering something like this can be incredibly painful and confusing. It's understandable that you feel lost and unsure of what to do next.
Your feelings are valid, and it’s important to acknowledge the hurt and betrayal you're experiencing. Trust is a foundational element in any marriage, and what you've discovered can shake that foundation deeply.
Your husband’s actions, regardless of his intentions, have caused you distress and have introduced a serious issue into your relationship. It's crucial that both of you address this openly and honestly to understand the underlying issues and work towards healing.
One constructive step forward is to consider having couple therapy. A professional therapist can provide a safe space for both of you to express your feelings and concerns, help facilitate understanding, and guide you in rebuilding trust. Therapy can also help you explore why this happened and how to prevent it in the future.
Remember, you don't have to go through this alone. Seeking professional help can be a critical step in navigating these challenging times and making informed decisions about the future of your relationship.
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Book appointment for counselling sessions
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Talk to some therapist
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Ms. Hema Sampath
Counselling Psychologist
18 yrs exp
Bangalore
It is unfortunate..
Would sugfest both of you to undergo Couple Counselling to understand each other better and to lead a cheerful and harmonious married life..
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Ms. Sanjana Dugad
Psychologist
5 yrs exp
Mumbai
Hi. Sorry to hear this. I can imagine how difficult and overwhelming this situation must be for you. Please try to take some time to process your feelings, thoughts, and only then confront your husband again. A psychologist can help you get through this situation and figure out how to best deal with the situation.
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Do not internalize any negative feelings/thoughts this situation might be evoking in you.
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Ms. Pooja Gupta
Psychologist
9 yrs exp
Delhi
Hi,
I am so sorry to hear that you are going through this. It is completely understandable that you are feeling lost and unsure of what to do. Infidelity, whether physical or emotional, can be incredibly painful and damaging to a relationship.
It is important to remember that everyone's boundaries and expectations in a relationship are different, so what may seem casual or harmless to one person may be hurtful and disrespectful to another. It is up to you to decide what is acceptable in your relationship and to communicate openly and honestly with your husband about your feelings and boundaries.
If you feel that you need support and guidance in navigating this situation, it may be helpful to consider seeking counseling or therapy, either individually or as a couple. A therapist can provide a safe space for you to explore your feelings and communicate effectively with your husband.
Remember that you deserve to be in a relationship where you feel respected and valued. Trust your instincts and prioritize your own emotional well-being. Take the time to care for yourself and consider what is best for you and your children in this difficult situation.
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Ms. Shivangi Gupta
Psychologist
4 yrs exp
Delhi
I am sorry you are facing this situation but been taken for granted or gaslighted in this situation is the worst. I suggest you to stick by your values and morals and don't let others words and reactions change how you feel. Be firm and ask for the change and apology you deserve or ask to get in the couple therapy session. Having a better foundation to your relationship is the most important thing currently. Stay put with your opinion and feelings and stay firm on your requirements. You can book the couple counselling session with us, will be happy to assist you.
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Take a couple therapy session
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Ms. Simran Shah
Child Behavior Therapist
6 yrs exp
Pune
Hello,
It's disheartening to hear about it. Such situations and actions are not casual. Would recommend you to have an open discussion with each other and understand why this all had begun, even if it's casual for like he says, why he had to take such a casual step..To start with these kind of conversation would recommend you to take counselling sessions from couple therapist who will help you to deal with such situations.
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