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Lonely and feeling unproductive
I really wish to fulfill my dreams and come out of societal control. My family members and husband doesnt support me and my dreams. I'm so fed up. Husband doesnt even talk to me properly. He fights and ignores me at times. If I tell him something that needs to be improved . He blames me and even scolds me for every small things. And he imitates me alot. He's also very competitive and comparing guy. Even for intimacy He doesnt feel to have that loving tendency. And always I've to take the initiative. I married to him this year only in Feb. Which was in temple. I asked him to have legal marriage done..but he's not taking any action at all. And he's taking me for granted. I'm so upset that what if he left me. I love him. But he doesn't understand me .
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Firstly, get things done legal, because I'm unsure of how things might be. If it can't be made legal, think about the possible consequences.
Secondly, understand the whole situation, keeping your thoughts about love for him aside. Because that might cloud your understanding of the situation.
Most importantly get help from a therapist to set aside everything else and to gauge and understand what you are in, what are the outcomes, risk factors, and everything else. And possibly a better way forward.
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get help. understand the whole thing. a marriage that is not legal, might have its potential backfires.
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be safe. don't be clouded by feelings of love alone.
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I think you are going to invite big trouble for yourself....
Get the professional marriage counselor help.
It can be well treated with counseling sessions and homeopathic medicine if required.
You need an expert Psychologist who is a good homeopathic physician.
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you can contact me through an online appointment for further assistance
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Life is never move in a linearity and one has to pass through many favourable or unfavorable situations.Right approach to transform the situation is to face it and if you are not able to change the conditions then change either yourself or your response to situation rather than waiting for it to happen.
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Analyse your situation and responses and think over it and induce the changes .
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Think -----Rethink and Reconnect with yourself to gain clarity and insights about situation and yourself
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Go for counselling , you need tailor made session instead of chat base session.
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Ms. Simran Dugar
Mental Health Counselor
4 yrs exp
Kolkata
I'm truly sorry to hear that you're facing such challenges in your marriage. It's clear that you have dreams and aspirations, and it's important for your partner to support and understand you. It's tough when communication and intimacy are strained.
Consider having an open and honest conversation with your husband about your feelings and concerns. Marriage counseling can also be a valuable option to work through these issues together. Remember, your well-being and happiness matter, and it's important to seek support and understanding from your partner. You're not alone in this journey.
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Mr. Sandeep Kumar
Psychologist
15 yrs exp
Chandigarh
Dear concerned, adjustment in a new environment is sometimes difficult. You need to learn simple and practical emotional regulation skills and resources skills to deal with the situation.
You can surely overcome your loneliness and unproductiveness.
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kindly consult with a relationship counselor asap
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Here are some tips you can begin with
# kindly introspect yourself and find a new alternate solution or ways to respond in triggering situations.
# make a list of your fears and address them, you will find most of them are hypothectical (imaginary based)
# work on communication ( first make him comfortable then share your views)
# have an attitude of let go
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Pooja Gupta
Psychologist
2 yrs exp
Kolkata
Hi! I think you should voice your concerns and issues to your husband. The behaviour you are describing of him is quite ignorant and this should not continue for which you should honestly convey what you are feeling to him. The foundation of a good marriage is communication, trust and honestly and you are lacking that. Try and communicate with him, if he still doesn’t listen, you seek counselling. I am happy to help you. We need to understand more about these everyday issues and address them. I would recommend couple counselling to you, but he does not understand, we will have to work on the way you deal with it.
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Happy to help if you require counselling.
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Ms. Smriti
Counselling Psychologist
18 yrs exp
Bangalore
Go for counseling.
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connect
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consult
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