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Is he fooling around
My boyfriend and I'm dating since 8 years, we've known each other since 10 years and he proposed that time. Everytime I ask him about marriage, he says not now. As 14 year old i used to ask..he would tell me at 18..at 18 when I would ask he would say after 21 as graduation completes..at that time he said after my ca gets complete..then he said at the age of 24 that he'll marry at 27..now when I ask him he says 28..and so I told give me some assurance and in turn he said love or spending time is not enough..we have to look at other things too..
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Hi,
As its true with love there many other things to work upon as well.
financial, culture, families and etc.
Talking to third person will help to get better understanding of what and how things can be improved together.
Thank you and take care.
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Hi, I am sorry you are feeling that way. I am sure it’s tough for you. It looks like he has some other goals and his goals aren’t matching yours. In this case, we will have to sit together and create a safe space and see what you’d like to do. We will also have to process emotions of grief and loss. Once that is done you’d be in a better position to decide how you’d like to proceed. These are not just yes or no questions but they require some sense of time and space to process and think about. You’re brave! Stay
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Book a session with me to work on this and find a way forward. Love and healing ❤️
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Currently u both are in marriage age.
Please consult with psychologist to sort out ur problem.
Check personality assessment before marriage.
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Hi, Relationships can be tricky and some time put you in really complex situations.The best part about balancing your need is the chance to have real conversation about what you each want out of the relationship.
Ask him to be honest with you. Try not to push him hard.Probably he must be waiting for a good job and security in life. But you need an assurance for the future. Seeking help from an expert will help you.
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Convince him to consult a psychologist with you.Premarital counseling with an expert is useful for both to plan your future..
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If your partner is not ready for counseling,consider going to individual therapy.
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Ms. Merlyn M Fernandes
Counselling Psychologist
16 yrs exp
South Goa
Hi, there are many possibilities to delay marriage plans. He probably wants to become financially stable before settling down. He probably is calculating the cost of living, expenses etc for starting a family.
It's good to discuss it with him openly rather than assume that he is "fooling around".
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Seek help from a counselor to help you work through your insecurities.
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Spend time working on yourself. You are a separate individual. Read books, start a new hobby, workout... find something that makes you feel confident.
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Dr. Kriti Vyas (PhD)
Psychologist
17 yrs exp
Hyderabad
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It is important for both of you to have a meaningful conversation about life goals and priorities. Communication is a key to any relationship issues. You can also side by side work on own personal goals and aspirations, so that you will also some purpose in life and feel life as meaningful.
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Can book online session for relationship counselling
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Ms. Mohana Priya G
Psychologist
9 yrs exp
Bangalore
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Take interpersonal therapy and premarital counselling. It will help u both to identify each other in all ways.
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Ms. Manasi Tambe
Counselling Psychologist
2 yrs exp
Pune
Hi,
I'll need to know more details about your relationship with him and hence I'd ask you to book an appointment on practo.
Talk therapy will help you to gain insight about your relationship with him.
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Ms. Smriti
Counselling Psychologist
18 yrs exp
Bangalore
Talk therapy and premarital counseling can help increase confidence and improve ability to interact with others.
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Dr. Seema Aggarwal (PhD)
Counselling Psychologist
12 yrs exp
Bangalore
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You both better go for pre marital counseling. It will help you to understand each other's perspective and expectations.
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Consult with Counseling Psychologist
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You can consult with me via the below link.
https://www.practo.com/bangalore/therapist/dr-seema-aggarwal-psychologist
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