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Husband's infidelity
I have been in marriage for 5 years now.. I have a 4 yrs old child. Till he was born, my sex life was good but right after my child , my sex life drifted apart.. in this 4 years, I haven't had sex for atleast one time.. i tried several times but my husband was not interested.. 6 months back, I asked him for the reason.. he said that he doubts him to be asexual.. in the meantime, I have caught him several times to be texting (not sexting/flirting)random girls on dating apps.. 4 months back , we went for couple counseling and he promised to not cheat on me any further..
2 months back I caught him having sex with my sister.. I confronted both of them , cut all ties with my sister.. but cos of my child , I couldn't leave my husband..
He then promised me to keep me happy thereafter and would never cheat on me again.. we were kind of happy being together but no sex ..
Now I feel I couldn't move on completely from infidelity.. what should I do now?
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U need serious sessions with counselor. U need to rethink your life again and if it effects your mental health suggestion would be you choose your own stable financial state.
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You both need sexual counseling with therapy.
Your husband might be in post traumatic shock as he got caught in the action. It might have affected his libido or hatred towards sex.
It needs to be treated asap otherwise it may get complicated.
It needs to be treated in a holistic approach for better recovery.
It can be well treated with counseling sessions and homeopathic medicine. Let him go through the therapy first later on the therapist will let you know about your status.
You need an expert Psychologist who is a good homeopathic physician.
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I have been working as a Homeopathic Psychiatrist and Counseling Psychologist for the last 17 years. You can contact me through an online appointment for further assistance.
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Hi, Consult a psychologist for a couple counseling sessions
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This tendency of your husband of infedility would not change . He is completely disrespecting you as a mother and wife . Please think of your life in next number of years . Would you be able to take this ? Move on and free your self from this pain and humiliation.
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Get your self financially stable
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Live a possitive life .
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It’s a very difficult situation for you and you have to be strong. Suggesting something here is very difficult without knowing fully about you, your relationship with your husband and sister. You just need to be strong for your child and connect with Psychologist for Counselling sessions.
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You need to connect with Counsellor.
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Hi,
It sounds like you're facing a deeply challenging situation in your marriage, particularly with the issues of infidelity and a lack of intimacy. The betrayal you've experienced can be incredibly difficult to overcome, especially when it involves someone as close as your sister. Moving forward, seeking support from a therapist who specializes in relationships and infidelity could provide valuable guidance and strategies for navigating these complex emotions. Additionally, having an open and honest conversation with your husband about your feelings and needs is crucial. It's essential to express how his actions have affected you and to establish clear boundaries and expectations for the future of your relationship. Ultimately, prioritizing your own well-being and happiness is paramount, even if it means considering difficult decisions such as separation or divorce. Remember that you deserve to be in a relationship where you feel valued, respected, and loved.
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Ms. Hema Sampath
Counselling Psychologist
18 yrs exp
Bangalore
I understand your situation and the pain..
Looks like that you are unhappy and still doubtful..
Suggest you to consult a therapist this time alone to understand yourself better and to overcome this issue..
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Ms. Simran Dugar
Mental Health Counselor
4 yrs exp
Kolkata
Understandably you're feeling hurt and uncertain about the future. It's important to take care of your own well-being and emotional health in this situation. Individual therapy can provide you with a supportive space to process your feelings, explore your options, and gain clarity about what you want for yourself and your child. A therapist can help you navigate through the complex emotions surrounding infidelity and betrayal, as well as guide how to move forward in a way that feels right for you. If you're open to it, you can consider contacting Mind Sculpt for therapy sessions. We have offers going on which might help you take the first step.
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Dr. Kavita Bhutani (PhD)
Psychologist
20 yrs exp
Gurgaon
U need to decide when do you want to put a stop to shit you are taking
U need to build your identity because this way your future does not seem great with the man
Get ready for plan b even if u might not need it
Also both of you need therapy
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Maybe I can help
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Ms. Kamna Vigg
Counselling Psychologist
5 yrs exp
Faridabad
I can only imagine how lonely, hurt and disappointed you may be feeling. This emotional hurt, when your husband is trying to find that connection with other women may make it a very difficult heavy feeling to accept. I wonder how are you coping with this massive loss of trust.
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Try to communicate, your the pain and rejection you feel due to your husband's loss of interest in you, tell him how you would like to change this so may be seek help from a psychologist who practices with couples and families.
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It would help if you could see also understand what your husband wants in this relationship from here on and work on the goals for both of you
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Ms. Shrishti Dhupar
Counselling Psychologist
5 yrs exp
Delhi
Thank you for reaching out. I can't even imagine what you must be going through. First and foremost, take care of your emotional and physical health. Infidelity can lead to intense feelings of sadness, anger, and confusion. Having a strong support network, whether it's friends, family, or a support group, can provide you with space to express your feelings and gain perspective. Additionally, individual therapy could be beneficial to help you process your emotions, explore your needs, and develop coping strategies during this difficult time.
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Individual therapy for you can focus on what you need and want, irrespective of your marriage. This can help clarify your feelings about the relationship and what you hope for in the future.
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Ms. Trishi Tangri
Counselling Psychologist
6 yrs exp
Hyderabad
Infidelity can be a really difficult thing to deal with and move on. It takes a lot of effort and time to move on from it, if you can.
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Seek a therapist to process your feelings about the cheating and your marriage. Couples therapy could also help you work on the marriage.
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Ms. Smriti
Counselling Psychologist
18 yrs exp
Bangalore
You need counseling session to resolve inner conflicts
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Dr. Anupama Bajaj (PhD)
Counselling Psychologist
11 yrs exp
Bangalore
Commemorative Infidelity
This type of infidelity occurs when a person is in a committed relationship but has no feelings for their partner. There is no sexual desire or love or attachment, only a sense of obligation keeping the couple together. "Lacking love and lacking commitment to a current romantic partner are both tied to general feelings of relationship dissatisfaction,"
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U need to have some sessions with a psychologist
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