Hateful nature. What is wrong with me?

Hi, I have had an abusive childhood where i was molested a no of times and it led a fear of alcohol in me and then a very stressful rshp where my bf had no time for me after that i fell in love again and got married. But i hate my husband when he drinks or smoke even occasionally. I hate when he goes out with friends and i hate to spend time with his friends. I want him to live life on my terms and whenever he goes against it or party i make his life miserable in coming days. I also cant trust him and always feel that he is lieing from me. And in those days i hate him like anything. He is an occasional drinker but i cant accept him partying or having fun with friends like any other women of my age. What is wrong with me? He does everything for me and is extremely caring. But even if one day he is out with freinds it drives me mad.