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Feel like sex is ugly...
Hello doctor, I never had sex and I will not have sex until my marriage. Nowadays I keep thinking about the ugliness of sex. I think sex is an ugly behavior. I'm a completely normal person. My testosterone is fine. But I keep on thinking that sex, child birth are very ugly. I need some advice about this chapter. I think it's a kind of personality illness. But I believe, understanding about the above mentioned thing will be good enough to cure these thoughts. Help me. Thank you.
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Hi, I appreciate your courage of expressing your feeling and need to overcome your problem. I can understand some of them will experience this feeling at some stage of life. You need to understand the truth of sex, related to relationship and role in child birth. For exmpl: Sometime sex plays a vital role in somebody's relationship. Its not just you will know about it , Here you need to find out the reason for your thought/ thinking/ emotions which is rooted in your mind. kindly visit the psychologist near your place and take a guidance to over come your problem and accept the reality of life.
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Hello,  for every attitude  there would a reason to develop one. You seem to quite alright  even on the priciplesn of sex and intimacy too. To overcome this particular emotion , you need to change the belief which you have developed over a period due to some reason .
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Do consult a psychologist in your city and have clarity.
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What you are experiencing is a defense mechanism called 'reaction formation'. Your mind tries to defend itself from something that it doesn't want to think/do so you don't feel bad. In your case it's sex. By thinking sex is ugly and repulsive your mind helps you to keep you away from sex.( I assume that you don't masturbate also)          But just understanding the fact may not help you resolve this.You need to change your Beliefs about sex, marriage and child birth. Beliefs are like computer software that runs the machine. Just knowing a software exists won't change anything. You need to change/uninstall the software. To change your beliefs we need see what your beliefs are , how it formed, why you hold to those beliefs and what evidence you have that your beliefs are true.  Once you could see your beliefs critically (how much it is closer to the truth/reality) you can start to change your views that is much closer to the truth. It's easier said than done. Because beliefs are hard to change and you may think that you are seeing your views critically but your views can be baised. Get help from a psychologist who can guide you to change your beliefs and help you see this in a more realistic way. (Changing beliefs takes time)
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