Fear. of sex. depression. Was painful.

What you are describing is called as Vaginismus. With cognitive and behavior therapy this can be treated. Please see a psychiatrist in person or online

Hi It is important to understand what's causing you this fear? Is it pain? There are ways you can handle it. The following reasons are among the most common: Your state of mind—Emotions such as fear, guilt, shame, embarrassment, or awkwardness about having sex may make it hard to relax. When you cannot relax, arousal is difficult, and pain may result. Stress and fatigue can affect your desire to have sex. Relationship problems—Problems with your partner may interfere with your sexual response. A common relationship issue is a mismatch between partners in their level of desire for sex. Do the following : Use a lubricant. Water-soluble lubricants are a good choice if you experience vaginal irritation or sensitivity. Silicone-based lubricants last longer and tend to be more slippery than water-soluble lubricants. Do not use petroleum jelly, baby oil, or mineral oil with condoms. They can dissolve the latex and cause the condom to break. Make time for sex. Set aside a time when neither you nor your partner is tired or anxious. Talk to your partner. Tell your partner where and when you feel pain, as well as what activities you find pleasurable. Try sexual activities that do not cause pain. For example, if intercourse is painful, you and your partner may want to focus on oral sex or mutual masturbation. Try nonsexual, but sensual, activities like massage. Take pain-relieving steps before sex: empty your bladder, take a warm bath, or take an over-the-counter pain reliever before intercourse. To relieve burning after intercourse, apply ice or a frozen gel pack wrapped in a small towel to the vulva. I'm case it's psycbosexual issue. Refer to a psychologist

Do the above and consult with any psychologist online for detailed discussion

Do relaxation exercises