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I recently lost a pregnancy, spoiled my govt. job exam, got surgical removal of ureter stone, trying to stay normal, but after a month of dnc, i suddenly crave to stay with my partner all the time..but when he refuse to take me along, i feel to not stay with him..i feel like shifting with my inlaws and maintain a distance from him.. Also, if i want to be intimate and he refuses, i feel to completely cut intimacy and stay at a different town.. i can't accept denial from my husband in any form. I am also worried of my career.. Sometimes i feel like i am afraid of pregnancy and i should not have a baby. I feel really low sometimes. Sometimes i want to travel but at the same time.. i just don't feel like going on movie date.. i feel like cutting myself socially, being distant from family and husband. I don't even feel like talking to my mother. Also i feel sad when alone. I am really confused. Sometimes i feel early signs of depression. Sometimes i don't wanna continue my gyane treatment.
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It is really heartening to see you’re going thru a lot. Your husband distancing away from you at a time when u need him feels extremely sad and also give a feeling of rejection and inadequacy.
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Do what you think makes you feel better. That is how you will hold your space
Take some time off to visit a place of your choice or go to a spa to pamper yourself
Meditate
Be with friends to uplift your mood
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I'm truly sorry you're experiencing such intense and overwhelming feelings right now. Itâs understandable that after so many difficult eventsâlosing your pregnancy, health issues, and the emotional toll of these experiencesâyouâre feeling confused, low, and disconnected. Your strong reactions to your partnerâs responses, feelings of wanting to distance yourself from loved ones, and fears about pregnancy and your future are natural responses to trauma and grief. Itâs important to remember that you donât have to face these feelings alone. Reaching out to a mental health professional can provide you with the support and tools you need to navigate these complex emotions, process your grief, and work through your fears. Talking to trusted family members or friends about how youâre feeling can also help lighten the emotional burden. Taking small steps toward self-care, like gentle activities, resting, and avoiding social withdrawal, can make a difference. Most importantly, give yourself permission to seek helpâyou deserve support, compassion, and understanding as you heal.
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Hi, you are going through so much!this confusing state of mind is normal. There are expectations, anger, unfulfilled desire in your mind at the same time. If you increase the distance from your partner and social circle it will make the void bigger.
Communicate, at this point of time you need to speak out. If your partner is not listening, talk to someone who will. If there is no one, talk to a therapist. Don't close the road to reach your heart.
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Just two small tips,
1. Your partner is also going through the difficult situation. Try not to blame for not responding. Blaming spreads negativity in ourselves.
2. Consider speaking to a therapist.
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Hi,
You have been through a lot in a very short time and the mix of loss, physical procedures, exam stress and relationship strain can leave anyone feeling emotionally overwhelmed, sensitive to rejection and unsure of what they want. The mood swings, craving closeness yet wanting distance and the sadness you feel when alone all point to your mind trying to process too many difficult events at once. This does not mean you are failing in any way, it simply means you need support rather than trying to carry this silently. Speaking to a psychologist now would really help you untangle these emotions, rebuild your sense of stability and also manage the fear and confusion around intimacy, pregnancy and your relationship.
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It seems to be post traumatic psychological changes leading to mood swings, anxiety and depression issues.
It needs to be treated asap otherwise it may get complicated.
It can be well treated with counseling sessions and homeopathic medicine effectively and without any side effects.
It needs to be addressed in a holistic approach for complete recovery.
Once you get better psychologically.. then only you should opt to conceive, otherwise you are causing trouble to you and your baby.
You need an expert Psychologist who is a good homeopathic physician.
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I have been working as a Homeopathic Psychiatrist and Counseling psychologist for the last 17 years of experience. You can contact me through an online appointment for further assistance.
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It is incredibly important to know that it's okay and completely normal to feel this overwhelmed and confused right now. You've been through a series of major, stressful events in a very short time—losing a pregnancy, a demanding exam, a surgery, and intense emotional strain in your relationship—all of which profoundly impact your body and mind. These experiences can lead to feelings of being distant, low mood, confusion, anxiety about the future (like your career and pregnancy fears), and a desire to pull away from the people closest to you. These are not signs of personal failure, but rather natural reactions to trauma and stress.
Counseling can provide a dedicated, private space for you to gently untangle these complicated feelings. A therapist can help you process the grief from the pregnancy loss, develop ways to manage the fear and anxiety, and find clarity in your relationship challenges, giving you the tools to reconnect with yourself and your life in a way that feels safe and strong again.
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You’ve been through a lot in a short time—pregnancy loss, health issues, exam stress, and relationship conflicts. It’s natural to feel confused, low, and emotionally overwhelmed. The mood changes, withdrawal, fear of pregnancy, and sensitivity to your husband’s reactions are all common responses to unresolved stress and grief.
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Consult psychologist
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Interventions:
• Grief processing
• Emotion regulation techniques
• Cognitive restructuring for fears and overthinking
• Communication skills for relationship conflict
• Behavioural activation to reduce withdrawal
• Grounding, journaling, and breathing techniques
• Monitoring mood for depression symptoms
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You are not alone, and you are not weak. You are going through a difficult phase, and with the right help and care, you can recover fully and feel like yourself again.
Take gentle care of yourself — you deserve it.
A psychologist can help you work through bad memories, intrusive thoughts, and emotional overwhelm in a safe and structured way.
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Hello as you have shared a lot of details it's a crucial time and it's natural to feel like that ......With the help of a sex and intimacy coach you can regain your married life and bond with partner .......And psychologist will give you therapies for stress.......I have developed a ALL NEW therapy PREM SUTRA which is very very effective in maintaining self love, relief stress/depression and regain Bond and intimacy with your spouse...
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You’ve been through major stress and a painful loss, so these strong emotions are normal. Mood swings, fear, and confusion can happen during healing. Please don’t face this alone — a psychologist’s support will help you feel better and regain balance. You deserve care and patience right now.
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Hey thanks for reaching out
You’re noticing mood dips, confusion, low motivation, fear around pregnancy, and social withdrawal these can be early markers of depression and unresolved grief, but with guided support, they are workable and reversible. Therapy would give you a gentle, structured space to process loss, restore emotional balance, rebuild security in your relationship, and work through career worries without shutting down. You don’t have to go through this alone, and support right now could prevent the emotional state from deepening. Take therapy. You can connect with me on nine two six six seven two six zero six five.
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Ms. Swati Agarwal
Clinical Psychologist
7 yrs exp
Kolkata
I’m really sorry for everything you’ve been going through. A pregnancy loss, health issues, exam stress, and relationship changes—all happening together—can overwhelm your emotional system. The mood shifts, fear of pregnancy, craving closeness, sudden withdrawal, irritability, and early depressive signs you described are very common after such major stress and trauma.
What you’re experiencing is not your fault, and it’s treatable with timely support.
Right now, you need a space to understand these emotional swings, your relationship concerns, and the sadness you’re feeling.
This requires a detailed one-to-one assessment, because these symptoms can be part of grief, anxiety, or post-traumatic stress after pregnancy loss.
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Begin therapy to process the pregnancy loss and current stress.
Assess mood and anxiety levels to rule out post-trauma symptoms.
Work on emotional regulation—so the sudden closeness/withdrawal cycle becomes manageable.
Explore relationship patterns and communication with your husband.
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Don’t isolate yourself—talk to at least one trusted person daily.
Follow a routine (sleep–eat–light activity) to stabilise mood.
Limit big decisions (moving out, cutting intimacy) until emotions settle.
Practice grounding—slow breathing, journaling, or short walks.
Continue medical follow-up until emotional stability improves.
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Ms. Heetanshi Jain
Psychologist
2 yrs exp
Mumbai
Thank you for sharing all of this so honestly. You’ve been through several major stressors back-to-back, a pregnancy loss, a competitive exam setback, a painful medical procedure, and ongoing treatment, and it makes complete sense that your emotions feel overwhelming and unpredictable right now. After a loss and a D&C, it’s very common for the body and mind to go through intense shifts: craving closeness, feeling rejected easily, withdrawing socially, and swinging between wanting connection and wanting distance. None of this means something is “wrong” with you, it means you’re grieving, healing, and your nervous system is trying to find safety again.
At the same time, the sadness, confusion, irritability, loss of interest, and thoughts of distancing yourself from everyone can be early signs that you may need some extra emotional support. You don’t have to handle this alone. A combination of gentle self-care, space to grieve, and psychological support can help you make sense of these feelings and feel grounded again. If you’re comfortable, consider speaking with a mental health professional who can help you through this period and also support you in rebuilding your sense of stability, emotionally, physically, and within your relationship. Be patient with yourself; healing after so many simultaneous losses takes time. You deserve all the care and support you need right now.
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Please consult a mental health professional
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It is important for you to give yourself the time and space you need to grieve and heal
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Ms. Komal Singh Parihar
Psychologist
7 yrs exp
Navi Mumbai
Hi,
Thank you for sharing your feelings so openly. Based on what you have described, you have gone through multiple emotional and physical stressors in a very short time—pregnancy loss, health surgery, career pressure, and relationship conflicts. These experiences can deeply affect emotional balance and can lead to emotional exhaustion, mood swings, fear, confusion, and early symptoms of depression. Your need for closeness, fear of rejection, withdrawal from loved ones, low motivation, and sadness are signs that your mind is overwhelmed and needs proper emotional care. This is not a weakness, it is a natural emotional response to prolonged stress and grief.
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• It is strongly advised to consult a clinical psychologist for emotional assessment and therapy
• If depressive symptoms increase, a psychiatric consultation may be required
• Do not stop any ongoing medical treatment on your own
• Begin grief counselling and emotional regulation therapy
• If relationship stress continues, couple counselling can also be helpful
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• Allow yourself to grieve your loss — healing takes time
• Share your emotions with one trusted person daily
• Practice deep breathing and grounding exercises twice a day
• Avoid making major life decisions when emotionally overwhelmed
• Maintain a simple daily routine with proper sleep and nutrition
• Write your thoughts in a notebook instead of suppressing them
• Remind yourself daily: “I am healing step by step, and it is okay to take help.”
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Dr. Kavita Bhutani (PhD)
Psychologist
20 yrs exp
Gurgaon
Huge emotional overload and burn out with perhaps no way to release the pain or process it
Memories and version of u born child
Unmet needs
Abandonment issues
They are coming from some where we need o find that pit
Till then vitamin d
Sunshine
Smile
Write about your thoughts
What will happen of u left alone
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Ms. Ligi R Nair
Counselling Psychologist
4 yrs exp
Bangalore
You’ve been through a lot—pregnancy loss, health stress, exams, and relationship strain. Your mood changes, confusion, fear, and need for closeness are normal responses to emotional overwhelm, not a flaw.
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Therapy can help you process the loss, ease anxiety, stabilise mood, and improve communication with your partner.
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Please seek support if you’d like to explore this further
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Ms. Neha Sachdev
Psychologist
11 yrs exp
Delhi
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Do u feel blamed for the lost pregnancy?? Do u feel that your partner is blaming you for this loss?? Have you communicated your feelings to your partner?? What if he feels the same loss?? Your craving for the partner is basically you wanting to cry/ express your sadness with him. If he is denying the contact, he may be going through the turmoil and would not want to try anything again which might hurt him again..
Talk to him
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Mr. Gunjan Maithil
Psychologist
13 yrs exp
Bangalore
Hi... You are experiencing extreme and conflicting thoughts & emotions. I believe it is primarily, caused by the loss (pregnancy) you have recently experienced and the medical, marital, career related issues you are facing. These ossilating thoughts suggest some deeper issues at your subconscious and unconscious mind. You need a safe space to vent out your fears and find a ground to your shifting thoughts and emotions. Please, do share your concerns with your Gynaecologist to understand if your medical issues can produce such concerns or it is an anomaly. You will find a better place to understand your thoughts and emotions in a therapeutic setting which will ultimately bring relief to your mind.
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Consult a Psychologist.
CBT along with Grief Counselling and Mindfulness Based Therapy is required.
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Mr. Gunjan Maithil
Senior Psychologist
Cell: nine six seven one three zero three one three four
Website: https://gunjanmaithil.wixsite.com/therapy
App: http://wix.to/fechb08?ref=cl
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