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I have been on and off depressed all my life. I get super emotional when I lose someone. Currently, I'm coping with the end of a relationship with my toxic and abusive ex. I'm going through trauma bonding. I've lost all motivation to focus on my career and my heart keeps going back to my ex. The balls are still in my court and I can go back to him. But I know it won't be healthy. There is this another guy that likes me a lot and I feel that I'm breaking his heart too. I feel guilty about a lot of things, I overthink about the future and keep playing the memories of the past in my head. I feel I'm not good at anything and can't achieve the things people my age have been achieving. This thought makes me wanna end my life.
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I think you are in first stage of stress and anxiety consult with me as soon as possible God bless you dear
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Hi. I can understand. For the time being take away your focus from relationship matter and career. Be yourself. Be indisciplined for a while. Focus on your smallest talent. Nurture that one. Have some house indoor plants. Plants are our good friend. Take care of them every day like your soulmate.Make ugly paintings in your personal notebook. Sometimes delays or underachievements are good. You might have some hidden talent.
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Hello there, i can understand how hard it is for you to deal with these problems. However, i can be resolved through proper counseling sessions.
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Get a counselling therapy session.
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Break the cycle of going on and off in relationships. Make a firm decision, think what's best for you.
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Hi, you do seem like a very sensitive person and clearly relationships are very important to you. Medication is not something that is urgently required however, in your case counseling is very crucial. It’ll help you keep yourself under the microscope and help you see the person you truly are as well as how your partners perceive you. It’s always preferred to be in a healthy relationship but you can only attract the good ones when you value and respect yourself :) you can get in touch with me if you wish to have any sessions.
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Hi, you are a caring person, you care about people and how they feel. Currently your mind wanders between the past and future. I understand that you are feeling upset about your past relationship. You keep thinking about the past often. To feel better you can think of giving yourself time and space. At present you can focus on yourself and feel proud of who you are for being a caring person. You don’t have to feel a lack of self-esteem but instead practice self-love.
You can maintain a diary and write something nice and positive about yourself.
Treat yourself with your favourite food or a nice cup of tea or coffee.
Do an activity that is considered relaxing such as music, reading, and so on.
Maintain a gratitude journal and write about the things you are grateful for.
You can think of giving yourself time and space and be easy on yourself. You have your whole life ahead of you and you can achieve great things.
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You can contact me for counseling session.
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Practice self-love and give yourself time and space.
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Hi , thanks for reaching out. I can see and understand from your narrative you are going through very difficult time . You are aware person also you know what is right and what is not so right for you .... but you are confused and lot of fog around your thoughts which is very overwhelming . It is always very helpful if you can talk to someone whom you can trust If not book an appointment with counselling psychologist to find the root cause of your depression and other feelings what you are going through . Hope this help.
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In the meantime mourning over a relationship is ok . Take some time to go out in sunlight do some kind of light exercise if you feel like . Pay attention to your food and sleep. Thanks and take care
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Glad you reached out girl. I hear you. There are so many things you are saying here. I going to try and rephrase that to see if u understood you correctly.
There has been some trauma / adverse experiences for you in your younger days. Due to which you struggle to strive in your personal and professional space. I would like to know more about what have these experiences been like in our future correspondences. I appreciate this awareness in you dear.
Regarding these two boys that confuse you. I can imagine that you ended a toxic relationship realising it’s no good for you but find yourself vulnerable to him from again and again. Is it because you want attention from someone and since you’re not getting it from the healthy places, that boy seems like a easier option.
I can understand you are struggling here. Let’s work together and make things better.
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Pls connect for a session virtually or face to face if painless. We can explore the narratives in detail.
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Hey,
Don't ever think about ending your life!
Life is beautiful. And who said that you are not capable or not doing good?
The way you are showing concern for your career and life, definitely shows that you are a sincere person who wants to do something good.
And everyone has their own time zone, they achieve different things in different ages. So wherever you are right now is ok and you can take it ahead from here.
And about your relationship I can totally understand your situation. You know it very clearly that going back is not going to help. I know having another person helps in moving on but I think now it's time for you to give some time and attention to yourself, love yourself, build yourself and automatically a lot of people will get attracted towards you.
Don't decide about the next person in this emotional state.
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I think now it's time for you to give some time and attention to yourself, love yourself, build yourself and automatically a lot of people will get attracted towards you.
Don't decide about the next person in this emotional state.
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If you want more strength and support you can contact me for counselling sessions. That can surely make things better.
All the best, I m sure you will do great in life.
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Good day Friend,.. I can understand your concern and the desperation to come out of this trauma.
Be aware that there is nothing called right or wrong decision in life. it's all about taking a decision when it's required . If it becomes a wrong choices, then treat it as a mistake and correct it. Not that you need to stay there for life long.
While doing the next choices do your due diligence to correct your mistakes and apply your learning and experience. Obviously with a confused mind you can't do this properly. May be take a counselling help to ventilate your feelings, emotions first and build yourself strong to take a major decision. Then you will explore the right way to approach this problem.
Be positive. You will be alright soon.
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Feel free to reach me online for further assistance.
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There is no one fit solutions for all. General advice or Google search will not help here. You need to open up and share more about your emotions, feelings and concerns to a mental health professional like us to overcome this issues
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Ms. Kala Bhandari
Counselling Psychologist
13 yrs exp
Bangalore
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Looks like you are dealing with to many things at a time ..prioritise your issues and deal with them one by one .As you say that you are dealing with the end of an toxic relationship and you are confused if you want continue the relationship..how would anything toxic be good for you ..Come to terms with one relationship and then think about the next one ..then only can you do justice to any relationship..Pls talk to a counsellor .
Will definitely help .No breakup is that important in life that you can’t move on .
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Please talk to a mental health practitioner who can help you sail through this storm safely.
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Mr. Sidharth Mishra
Psychologist
6 yrs exp
Bhubaneswar
Don’t keeps things bottled up. The following are the best steps to take
1. Write about you previous relationship
2. Talk to some one
3. Make a routine.
4. Join a Zumba
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Take an appointment
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Ms. Joe Nisha Arvind
Psychologist
4 yrs exp
Chennai
Hi There
I am able to understand what you are going through. It is indeed difficult to be in a toxic relationship and more difficult to come out of it. However I am glad that you had great courage to come out of it and I call it a progress. You seem to be a brave women who has dealt her life with courage.
There seems to be few unresolved emotions within you which needs to be addressed would call it unfinished business. I would recommend Gestalt therapy as a psychologist for which you may need assistance. You are the only person who can change your thoughts and have control over your thoughts. When we let others have control over our thoughts we will face a lot of problems. Please try to get some help over your unfinished business. Practice mindfulness daily. There are lot of videos on youtube.
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Dr. Yakata Sharma (PhD) (PhD)
Clinical Psychologist
13 yrs exp
Pune
Hello there! I understand the situation you are in right now is quite challenging. Like you have rightly mentioned that the relationship with your ex was toxic and abusive, so,whenever the thought of going back to him comes, remind yourself the nature of the relationship you had with him. Give yourself some break from getting into a relationship with anyone. Engage yourself in some pleasurable or mastered activities which will enhance your self efficacy.
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consult a mental health therapist to understand how to cope with the current problems in a healthy way.
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Dr. Mustafa Mun (PhD)
Clinical Psychologist
7 yrs exp
Mumbai
Ending life isn’t a solution to the problem. There isn’t any life with a smooth ride , no human being faces all beds of roses without a few thorns in it . It’s natural , that’s the beauty of life.
Relationships are always a mystery until you get into one. Until you don’t you do not realise how the other human being’s mentality is. You’ve rightly realised that this is a toxic relationship , hence going back to him would be a fairly unwise move.
The person who is showing interest in you , you should try and take things slow with him , it will help you emotionally .
At any point in time if you feel really overwhelmed, just meet a close friend whom you can open up your heart to without any judgements .
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Identify a psychologist in close proximity to your home where you can go and meet him/her physically if possible to get some more tips
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Ms. Neha Ravichandran
Counselling Psychologist
10 yrs exp
Bangalore
Hi though you are going through emotional phase , you are a strong person. Who is willing to face the present and future. The fact that you reached out on this platform for support shows it.
Glad to hear that you are evaluating things not to go back to the toxic relation.
For your work and skills -
If you reach out to a counselor they will help you declutter and unfold many aspects about you.
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In self help start with bringing healthy life style changes . That will lift you and make you feel good and motivated
We need to know more to further share inputs . Hope this helps .
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You can reach out online or in clinic for a session at Practo : Neha Ravichandran
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Ms. Shrradha Sidhwani
Clinical Psychologist
20 yrs exp
Mumbai
Please seek cbt therapy to address your emotions. There is a lot of self-downing and guilt that will be addressed in therapy sessions
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