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Concerned about my mom's mental health
My girlfriend came to my home, she stays in other state. She came for a day because we were going on a trip from our place. My mother keeps searching her hand bag when she's not near. I was sleeping in my room where she kept the bag and a sound woke me up and found my mom searching her bag. I intentionally coughed and she became alert and acted like she came to wake me up. Next day also she kept finding excuses to go to that room and kept closing the door and do something with my girlfriend's bag.
Now, my gf is clumsy and she never keeps a count of her money. So when I asked her, I didn't get to know whether my mom stole money from her bag or not. If searching her bag was not for stealing money, then what is it for? How do I confront her? What do I tell my gf? How do I alert her to keep the bag secured and all. I'm losing my mind due to this.
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I understand this situation is troubling , over the happiness you feel with your girl friend.
There are ways of resolving this. Consider the Reasons Behind your mother’s behaviour , you need to understand why your mother is doing what she is doing . Have a talk .
Understanding is not an excuse for her behavior. It’s to give you clarity and guide your actions. Stand your ground Verbalize the boundaries . Focus on building trust and communication .
In the meantime when your girlfriend stays at your place ask her to keep her things locked .
Consult a Psychologist to help you through this .
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Hi,You can tell your girlfriend to keep her valuable things and money safe.Since you know your mum and are aware of her behaviour you have to find a way to talk to her.You can tell your girlfriend to keep her bag under lock and key.Nothing to be anxious about such situations.You can talk to your mother once your girlfriend left the place.
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You are concerned about your moms behaviour and you feel stressed when she has a look at your girlfriends handbag. You are wondering about the reason behind your mom opening your girlfriends handbag. You are not able to get an answer from your girlfriend. You are confused and anxious about how to confront your girlfriend. To understand the case better a psychologist would like to know
1. For how long have you been in a relationship with your girlfriend.
2. Your mothers personality.
3. How is the relationship between your girlfriend and your mother.
4. How is the relationship between you and your mom.
It is important to know if your mom has been feeling anxious or upset lately. In order to determine the reason behind your moms behaviour consult a psychologist for counselling sessions.
I understand you are worried about your moms behaviour, try to not worry too much. Talking to a psychologist will help you feel better.
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Contact me for counselling sessions. Along with counselling I can suggest natural foods to calm the mind.
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Mr. Gunjan Maithil
Psychologist
13 yrs exp
Bangalore
Hi... She might be searching for something that might be a red flag, like cigarettes, drugs, lighter, contraceptives, etc. It is not unusual for parents, especially mothers, to be extra careful about their kids and who they are socializing with or dating. It is obviously a breach of privacy but parents, siblings, or even close friends do cross limits while ensuring their close ones safety, security, & future. You don't need to complain about it to your girlfriend. But you need to confront your mother on this and tell her it is not acceptable and it can be misunderstood as robbery. Try keeping your girlfriend's bags and valuables locked up in a cupboard or some place safe when she is at your home.
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Interpersonal Relationship Counselling is required. Parent Counselling will work best if she is willing.
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