Child not eating. And behaves normaly?

I understand what you and your daughter must be going through, I pray to God for your strength. For daughter I will say that, the best thing about children is that we can distract them very easily. But for that atleast in front of her you will have to forget everything and behave normally. Try to create fun for her, take her out, let her meet some friends of her age if possible, engage her in the activities she likes. And though we think they are children they understand, they can sense it if we are worried or disturbed and it affects them. Make some story to tell her that we all have to play our part and go back one day...

we can't change or forget anything but accepting the fact and situation is the best that you can do.

I have done my PhD in Child Psychology and I m working with children since 10+ years now. If you want you can book an appointment with me to discuss more in detail.

I think she is undergoing little disturbance due to her grandfather loss. It takes some time normally. Engage her in some interested activities like playing, colouring, painting with hands etc.

I understand your predicament. Without coming to conclusions of any kind and being apprehensive about your daughter's state of health, I want you to be as caring, compassionate, loving and nurturing of your daughter as you can now. I know her present behavior is indeed a challenge to deal with. Keeping that aside, be the epitome of patience, understanding, care and affection towards your child. Be a role model as to how to deal with grief and behave with grace and equanimity. Never give up on your efforts. Every time you win this, your child also wins. So, persevere. As she is convinced of your non-judgmental, calm, composed and affectionate nature, she will learn to totally trust you and rely on you for strength. It is only a matter of a few days. Break the old cycle of how you used to deal with her tantrums and kindly try following the above mentioned approach. She will soon regain her appetite and start eating healthy. I would also like to make a few suggestions that might help you deal with any other challenges you might be facing right now. I want you to know that with awareness of how the mind works and how thoughts are generated, you will get better at dealing with them and thereby help you have clarity about doing what is right in the every situation. I want you to know that once you are capable of this. Kindly read what follows : Today, the mind is fixated on something. Tomorrow it could be obsessed about another person/event/topic. Understanding the nature of the mind and how thoughts are generated will help you deal with them. The nature of the Mind, which in simple terms we experience as thoughts, is such that, it will keep shifting its focus from one object/topic/event to another. Ii always needs something to hold on to. Another important characteristic of the Mind is this - You will either have thoughts about the past or the future. This will keep alternating. Try thinking about the present moment - you will see that the Mind and 'Now' can never coexist. The Mind has 3 states in general. Sometimes, you may find yourself having very positive, inspiring thoughts. During other times, you may find yourself very emotional, or all charged for action. Whereas during other times, you may feel very lethargic, dull or lazy. These states will keep alternating. Having understood the nature of the mind, the first step towards mental health is to become aware of your thoughts. Learning to be an observer of your thoughts, learning to observe them from a distance like clouds passing in the sky. The next step is knowing that you have the power to choose which thought you wish to focus on and act on and exercising that power. With practice, you will have better mastery over this process. Having negative thoughts is something that plagues everybody from time to time. Trust me, even if everything was perfect, you will still find some shortcomings somewhere and brood about it. Tension or anxiety is a physiological response which is again part of being human. It is normal to have such thoughts about any situation. As mentioned above, with practice, you will learn to focus and entertain only those thoughts are healthy enough to be acted upon. Whenever you feel overwhelmed by thoughts, just bring your focus back to your breath and take a few relaxing breaths. You will automatically be able to focus on the task at hand and do what is required. Whatever you feed your mind through your sense organs will be replayed to you as thoughts. Be conscious of this. Take care of the content you feed your mind - the kind of books you read, the websites you visit, the kind of music you listen to, the kind of food you eat, the kind of company you keep ( "You are an average of five people you spend most of your time with" ) Ask yourself : Where would I like to see myself ten years from now? What should I do today to reach there ten years from now? What would I do if I knew I wouldn't fail? What would I do if I weren't afraid? No matter how impossible the answers might seem, I want you to know that you can and will make them possible. Take the first step. The rest will follow. A beautiful future awaits you. Take ownership of every time, take responsibility for it and confidently work towards your dreams and aspirations. One day you will thank these dark moments for being the fuel for your success. Please set aside time for exercise daily and make sure you eat healthy every time. Our challenges that seem to threaten our very existence are the ones that serve as fuel for our evolution. Have faith in yourself. You are capable of dealing with this. You are going to do just fine. Take care.