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I am able to understand what u must b going through. Putting up with the societal stigma of   preferring a male partner can be exhausting. If  this leads to depression or anxiety it needs to be treated. Many of the symptoms which u have mentioned are seen in people with depression and anxiety. Depression makes a person sensitive, emotional and irritable to things which they were able to tolerate before. V would need to know few more details like ur sleep, hunger, energy levels, interest etc to give appropriate suggestions. Ur problems can easily be treated with counselling and if needed medications. I will be able to prescribe medications to u if needed after assessment. Don't let ur problems affect ur personal or family life. Dont worry, u will b fine. U need a psychiatrist evaluation. I would be more than happy to consult u online through the Practo chat option. Best wishes for speedy recovery!!