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My husband's friend has two kids.One is 4 years and the other baby girl is just 6 months.My husband's friend's wife daily posts her kids photos and videos in WhatsApp status.But what i dont like or understand is she sends those same pictures again to my husband also..Both of them are like brother and sister i have no trust issues as i personally know both of them..but why is she so desparate in sending every pic of her babies to my husband? Then my husband replies to those pics like wow such a cute kid and she says thank you brother...I would like to understand her mindset and what exactly she wants?
1. Why does she post it personally to my husband when she already puts them in status and he can see them?
2. whenever my husband send her our baby's photo ,she never replies as if she is so busy but doesn't miss sending even one pic of her babies
I have no complaints on her but want to understand what exactly she wants?
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It need to be resolve in counseling session
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The thing about posting a query is no one can explain in comment 💬 but I will try to help you. If you like the reply mark it helpful.
1. Scenario : Have you discussed it with your husband?
Option 1 - if yes, and he brushed it off , then don't react. Stop asking why and what.. This will lead them to think about their actions if anything wrong going on.
Option 2 - if no, you haven't told him yet, it's great. Just wait and watch observe action but don't speak or else truth won't clear it. Action speak louder. OBSERVE
2. Scenario : which many have already commented maybe attention seeker. Soln. Don't give your peace to her by Overthinking. IGNORE
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no bro/sis that way.. it's sus. so just observe. and don't get triggered by their actions.
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Hi, It seems you are insecure about the whole thing even though you said that you don't have trust issues.Instead of worrying about the issues,you should talk to your husband about it.May be you are over thinking.May be she likes to get appreciation from people about her kids
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In my opinion it is matter of narcissistic personality. I will not claim this is a disorder but just another personality trait. In this generally there is a need of attention, appreciation from others but no regard for other person's emotion.
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Dr. Seema Aggarwal (PhD)
Counselling Psychologist
12 yrs exp
Bangalore
Hi.
I appreciate your sharing your concern and feelings here. There can be multiple perspective to look into this concern.
One perspective can be may be she has egocentric approach.. She only do what makes her happy.. It doesn't mean something fishy. But there are other perspective also..
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You can consult Psychologist to understand various perspective
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Ms. Sheetal Kusumbe
Counselling Psychologist
21 yrs exp
Thane
I understand that you are finding this behaviour out of normal understanding.
1.Maybe she has seen generous responses from your husband as everybody likes kids and so particularly remembers to send each picture.
2.Human mind seeks appreciation and she seeks validation and is not realising the relationship equation and busy sending the pictures.
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You could talk to her by saying that you too find the pictures really cute and probe about this behaviour.
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It is better to clarify as assumptions can be inaccurate at times.
Communications always helps in
1. setting boundaries
2. avoiding misunderstanding
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Mr. Gunjan Maithil
Psychologist
13 yrs exp
Bangalore
Hi... It's a very unique issue that you have raised. I guess you have to ask that lady about it. People after marriage and especially after having kids go through a transformation in their socio-emotional life. Some tend to reach back to their old friends and some try to make new ones. May be your husband and that lady connect to each other at some level and it doesn't need to be romantic to be close. It's just a void people feel beyond fulfilling their role as a husband, wife, father, mother, etc. It doesn't mean that this person is more important to them than their spouse or kids. It is just someone who they like talking to or share their experiences.
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Consult a Psychologist.
Interpersonal Relationship Counselling is required.
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