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13y old son likes to wear my dress
My 13 years old yelder son likes to wear my dress. When I heard from my younger son that our yelder son is closing the bedroom door every day afternoon and doing some thing , I asked him about it. First he said he was playing some mobile game but later when I asked him alone he told me that he tried my night dress which he likes to wear. I asked him how long you feel so.. he said just last few days. I asked him do you like anything else like flowers bindi... He said no... I told him it's ok now but don't continue this... If you can't control yourself then let me know. Mom will be with you and help you. But as a mother I am scared and worried. Is it normal or do I need take him to doctor for any consultation. Pls help me.
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Hi there,
First — thank you for reaching out so openly. It’s completely valid to feel confused and concerned as a parent when something unexpected comes up in your child’s behavior.
At 13, your son is at an age where curiosity, self-exploration, and identity testing are very common — whether it’s related to appearance, preferences, or even gender expression. Trying on clothes, especially in private, can be part of this exploration and doesn’t automatically mean something is “wrong” or needs to be “stopped.”
What’s most important is the emotional safety you’re already providing — letting him know you’re there, listening, and supportive without judgment. That alone can help him feel secure and build trust to open up more if anything deeper is going on.
From a psychological perspective, this doesn’t immediately suggest a disorder or the need for panic. But if you’re noticing repeated secrecy, emotional distress, or identity confusion in him (or within yourself, as you mentioned), then yes — a consult with a child psychologist can really help. Not to “correct” him, but to create a safe space for him to understand himself better and for you to get some peace of mind, too.
Happy to support you both through this. Feel free to reach out directly for a confidential session — parenting doesn’t come with a manual, but you’re already doing a lot right just by being present.
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It seems that a child is developing traits of clothing fetishism. It can lead to sexual fantasies later which is a part of psychological changes.
It needs to be addressed asap otherwise it may get complicated.
It can be well treated with counseling sessions and homeopathic medicine effectively if required.
Homeopathic medicine would be a good solution for your kid, as it do not have any side effects or addiction.
It needs to be addressed in a holistic approach for complete recovery.
You need an expert Psychologist who is a good homeopathic physician.
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it’s not uncommon for children, especially around puberty, to explore different feelings, behaviors, or curiosities. Wearing your dress may simply be a form of harmless self-expression, comfort-seeking, or even just curiosity. It doesn’t necessarily mean anything serious or permanent about identity or orientation. Many children go through such phases quietly and move on without it becoming a concern.
For now, your role is just to stay connected, kind, and curious. Let him know:
“Whatever you’re going through, you can talk to me — and there’s nothing wrong with exploring.”
If this continues or grows into something that affects his daily life or mental well-being, a child psychologist can gently explore it further with him.
You’re doing great, and your worry comes from a place of love — keep trusting that bond.
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I understand, it might be a difficult situation for you. For him, it could just be curiosity, but the best approach would be to seek support from a psychologist to better understand what’s going on in his mind.
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Mr. Fr Dr John Zachariah
Counselling Psychologist
9 yrs exp
Ernakulam
It's a kind of sexual problem. Please consult a psychologist or Sexologist
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Ms. Farheen Moulana
Counselling Psychologist
4 yrs exp
Bangalore
Hello,
First and foremost, it is completely understandable that you as a mother feel scared and worried. Your son’s behaviours falls under the spectrum of adolescent exploration. And it is very common among adolescents. And during this period, it is very common for teenagers to experiment with different form of roles, expression and even clothes. They do this to understand themselves better, test boundaries or simply to explore different facets of their personality or just to find comfort .
Since your son has already shared that he does not like wear bindi or flowers, please take this as a positive sign as currently his interest are only towards clothing.
As a parent even though you are being very supportive toward him, try to avoid shame or punishment at all cost. Please focus on healthy communication and seek professional help from a child and adolescent psychologist as soon as possible.
Remember, the goal is to foster a healthy authentic sense of self in your son without any judgment.
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Ms. Rizwana Parvin T M
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7 yrs exp
Coimbatore
I understand your concern, I suggest you take counselling for yourself first on how to cope up with this challenging situation.
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Ms. Pooja Gupta
Psychologist
9 yrs exp
Delhi
Hi,
It's understandable that you feel worried about your son's behavior, especially since he is exploring clothing that he seems to like. At his age, children often go through phases of experimenting with different interests, expressions, and identities as part of their development. It is quite common for children to be curious about clothing and self-expression, and this does not necessarily indicate any problem. However, your concern shows that you care deeply for his well-being. It might be helpful to have open, non-judgmental conversations with him, reassuring him that he can share his feelings with you. If he continues to show signs of distress, or if you notice other changes in his behavior or emotions, consulting a child psychologist or counselor could provide additional support and guidance. Remember, early understanding and support can help him feel safe and loved as he explores his identity.
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