Bpd issue. Go for therapy ot whatever.

Hi, i have issue controlling my emotions specially anger which is effecting my mental condition and also the people around me. I also have strong anxiety issues which is uncontrollable and i even physically harm people around me and sometimes myself due to this issue. Few months back visited a therapist where he found that i have BPD due to childhood trauma and conditions though the diagnosis might be wrong as i am doubtful about most of thing. I want to save my marriage and my life and people around me. I have strong fear of abandonment because of my past history. I dont want to DIE. Please help me and give me advise and also give some home therapy which i can follow . Please suggest me good doctors so i can go for therapy ot whatever.